0/h spoke to the rescue again today because she left another message. just to say that harley and her new adoptive owners seem to be bonding really well so they are probably definitely taking her. so not meant to be, but i am happy for her
the lady said they would try and work with us and our situation in the future if we saw another rabbit we were interested in. they could contact a local animal charity to do the homecheck for them. she did say they would be concerned over the long journey aswell for any rabbits but it would depend on the individual rabbit. also one thing that is really important to them is the potential adopters visiting at least three times first. she said because of the long distance she would consider twice for us. but appreciates that would be still difficult for us with the distance and my problems.
honestly though, this lady is such a nice person. and so was the one who emailed me originally. i think they'd be such a lovely rescue to deal with it's the national animal welfare trust
http://www.nawt.org.uk/
eta: the one i emailed first was berkshire
and then the correct one hertfordshire! both were lovely