JessBun
Mama Doe
Thank you all, so much, for your kind and comforting words. Whilst nothing does take the pain away, it helps so much to know there are people who truly do understand. Most 'normal'? (using the term lightly) people I suppose would think 'it's just a rabbit' - for these people it really is the exact same to them finding what is left of their dog, like this. It is just as horrifying for any of us to find our beloved pets gone this way.
I have tried to write a reply to this thread a couple of times and had found it a bit much till now but please understand you all really are helping, and most importantly, appreciated. I am reading, even if I am quiet, when things are tough.
I was really bad for the following couple of days with a bad migraine and episodes of crying. The day I found Micky was gone I was actually physically sick - which says something for me as I'm usually what I'd consider more of an emotionally 'hard' person with things like this. Migraine has thankfully gone, and the shock has sank in a bit more, which sadly has just opened the flood gates of grief. I'm totally pining for my boy, and there's such an empty space. It's unbearable to go into the garden, and not have him running down his run to say hello to me. I'm hoping other half will take the run apart and move hutch to the back of the garden out the way to make things a bit easier for me. I don't feel very strong at the moment. I don't think, I will ever truly get over this nasty shock.
We haven't approached any neighbours, and I think I may leave it now. I suppose I'm frightened of their response. I don't want to upset anybody, but likewise it would rub too much salt into the wound if the person who opened the door was uncaring and said 'Sorry, yes, but it's what dog's do' - I just couldn't cope with that. It still could have been a fox I guess. Daphne Phoebe has been incredibly supportive, and looked at pictures for me. It's definitely not fox faeces, and would immediately think dog - but we're also unsure at this point if I got it wrong and it could be cecum matter as the cecum did have a tear in it (sorry guys, it's not nice to read but reading is no where bad as seeing it, I can promise that much).
I don't think I'll ever get the answers, other than at least I know he is not just ''missing' and never knowing the truth. At least I know he's gone, and I can move on, at some point. It's always at the front of my mind that no matter how much I'm suffering right now, it's nothing to what he suffered and I'll never forgive myself for that.
I do appreciate all the lovely people who have told me not to blame myself, and particularly, have shared their own tragic experiences (I wouldn't wish it on a worst enemy!!) but it helps me feel a bit more human, and not a total failure. I do accept responsibility though. It does feel as though sometimes, if something wants in it will find a way, so for me, I just couldn't keep pets outside ever again. I think the worst of it is, he was due to be moved indoors soon, when Autumn had been spayed, and he would of safe. I think that's the real kick in the teeth.
Re rehoming the pets. It's not because I don't love them I'm considering it, it's because I do. Even indoors, I'm terribly fretting I will fail them again. I also need to think of Autumns needs. Autumn is incredibly human orientated, and actually loves being picked up, cuddled, and kissed. She loves to groom people! But I know nothing makes up for company of her own kind. I need to think of her needs, and don't know if I'm strong enough to open my heart to another bun - it just ends in heartbreak. OH has said point blank she's not going bless him, he loves her as much as he loved Micky. But they and their needs have to come first. I won't be making any rash decisions as I know I'm not in good place right now. But the thought of another bun is incomprehensible. I think the piggies will stay, but jeez is it hard to think of losing any more I don't feel cut out for this.
I just want to say another thank you to the member who pointed out that Micky was/is not his body. This really helped me come to terms with having nothing left to say goodbye to. I guess I need to find another way to say goodbye to him. I've mentioned it before about Battlekats wonderful personalised necklaces of buns, but I think this would be a wonderful momento and way to say goodbye, so hopefully when funds are up I can see if she can/will make one of Micky & Autumn. I can focus on that rather than his missing body, and I think that will be my way of saying goodbye.
Sorry for super long post! There's so much twirling around my head. Such a painful time, but you all are wonderful people who really do help others at times like this. xxxxxxxxxxx
I have tried to write a reply to this thread a couple of times and had found it a bit much till now but please understand you all really are helping, and most importantly, appreciated. I am reading, even if I am quiet, when things are tough.
I was really bad for the following couple of days with a bad migraine and episodes of crying. The day I found Micky was gone I was actually physically sick - which says something for me as I'm usually what I'd consider more of an emotionally 'hard' person with things like this. Migraine has thankfully gone, and the shock has sank in a bit more, which sadly has just opened the flood gates of grief. I'm totally pining for my boy, and there's such an empty space. It's unbearable to go into the garden, and not have him running down his run to say hello to me. I'm hoping other half will take the run apart and move hutch to the back of the garden out the way to make things a bit easier for me. I don't feel very strong at the moment. I don't think, I will ever truly get over this nasty shock.
We haven't approached any neighbours, and I think I may leave it now. I suppose I'm frightened of their response. I don't want to upset anybody, but likewise it would rub too much salt into the wound if the person who opened the door was uncaring and said 'Sorry, yes, but it's what dog's do' - I just couldn't cope with that. It still could have been a fox I guess. Daphne Phoebe has been incredibly supportive, and looked at pictures for me. It's definitely not fox faeces, and would immediately think dog - but we're also unsure at this point if I got it wrong and it could be cecum matter as the cecum did have a tear in it (sorry guys, it's not nice to read but reading is no where bad as seeing it, I can promise that much).
I don't think I'll ever get the answers, other than at least I know he is not just ''missing' and never knowing the truth. At least I know he's gone, and I can move on, at some point. It's always at the front of my mind that no matter how much I'm suffering right now, it's nothing to what he suffered and I'll never forgive myself for that.
I do appreciate all the lovely people who have told me not to blame myself, and particularly, have shared their own tragic experiences (I wouldn't wish it on a worst enemy!!) but it helps me feel a bit more human, and not a total failure. I do accept responsibility though. It does feel as though sometimes, if something wants in it will find a way, so for me, I just couldn't keep pets outside ever again. I think the worst of it is, he was due to be moved indoors soon, when Autumn had been spayed, and he would of safe. I think that's the real kick in the teeth.
Re rehoming the pets. It's not because I don't love them I'm considering it, it's because I do. Even indoors, I'm terribly fretting I will fail them again. I also need to think of Autumns needs. Autumn is incredibly human orientated, and actually loves being picked up, cuddled, and kissed. She loves to groom people! But I know nothing makes up for company of her own kind. I need to think of her needs, and don't know if I'm strong enough to open my heart to another bun - it just ends in heartbreak. OH has said point blank she's not going bless him, he loves her as much as he loved Micky. But they and their needs have to come first. I won't be making any rash decisions as I know I'm not in good place right now. But the thought of another bun is incomprehensible. I think the piggies will stay, but jeez is it hard to think of losing any more I don't feel cut out for this.
I just want to say another thank you to the member who pointed out that Micky was/is not his body. This really helped me come to terms with having nothing left to say goodbye to. I guess I need to find another way to say goodbye to him. I've mentioned it before about Battlekats wonderful personalised necklaces of buns, but I think this would be a wonderful momento and way to say goodbye, so hopefully when funds are up I can see if she can/will make one of Micky & Autumn. I can focus on that rather than his missing body, and I think that will be my way of saying goodbye.
Sorry for super long post! There's so much twirling around my head. Such a painful time, but you all are wonderful people who really do help others at times like this. xxxxxxxxxxx