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[RinnyRin]

I’m so very lost and confused.

I changed the room around and he started doing zoomies around the room. Then he stopped and took a step back.

I don’t know if I’m projecting my feelings on to him but it felt like he was waiting for Ivy to have her turn exploring/zooming.

 

[a reader of books]

I'm so sorry. I know it's hard to see them on their own when they always used to be together...

 

[Pets mum]

Oh bless him, I agree it is very hard to watch when you are grieving yourself. He knows you are there and that will be a comfort to him xx

 

[RinnyRin]

Thank you.

He has taken to hiding and being scared of me this afternoon…I know this is all part of the process so I don’t hold it against him. He will still come to me for food so I guess in a way it’s much like starting from scratch again.


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[Craig 1965]

Thank you.

This feels like one of the hardest things I’ve been through. I think because you can’t just let yourself become clouded in your own grief…you have to carry on for the remaining companion. I’m carrying the weight of my own feelings and guilt for her loss and empathising with Leafy and carrying guilt that he is without his soul mate. [emoji17]

They were love at first sight bunnies…they belonged by each other’s sides and now that’s not going to happen.


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This is a perfectly normal way to feel following the events of the last week for you and Leafy. And you feel this way because you care and love. There is no quick fix for our feelings when we lose a loved pet - and as you rightly identify, it is the same for Leafy. The hardest part is always watching the solo bun because they are trying to process what has happened. Like us, bunnies take time to accept what has happened - its' called the Kubler ross model of grief.
As has been posted, a companion for Leafy is the most positive way forward but this is also a hard way for you to move on as well - and I speak from experience. So you are not alone in how you feel - most if not all of us on the forum have felt as you do and know how Leafy feels.
When you feel ready in your heart, then a rescue bunny would love to be given the second chance at life with the love and care you clearly have, and Leafy would also find it in his heart to have another bun friend to snuggle up with. And whilst it will never replace Ivy and that is only right, another bunny cen blossom from the warmth and love from you and Leafy.
Gentle hugs to you and nose rubs to Leafy. xx

 

[RinnyRin]

This is a perfectly normal way to feel following the events of the last week for you and Leafy. And you feel this way because you care and love. There is no quick fix for our feelings when we lose a loved pet - and as you rightly identify, it is the same for Leafy. The hardest part is always watching the solo bun because they are trying to process what has happened. Like us, bunnies take time to accept what has happened - its' called the Kubler ross model of grief.
As has been posted, a companion for Leafy is the most positive way forward but this is also a hard way for you to move on as well - and I speak from experience. So you are not alone in how you feel - most if not all of us on the forum have felt as you do and know how Leafy feels.
When you feel ready in your heart, then a rescue bunny would love to be given the second chance at life with the love and care you clearly have, and Leafy would also find it in his heart to have another bun friend to snuggle up with. And whilst it will never replace Ivy and that is only right, another bunny cen blossom from the warmth and love from you and Leafy.
Gentle hugs to you and nose rubs to Leafy. xx

Thank you for writing this. It really means a lot to me. To us.

I have started emailing a few rescues and individuals I know whom foster regarding the situation and potentially finding Leafy a new companion.

No bun could ever replace Ivy. She was one of a kind. I do think that getting him a friend will help us both though. The feelings I have are too intense for me to process because I’m consumed by my feelings and what Leafy’s may be.


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[bunny momma]

Even after finding Leafy a new friend, you may find yourself feeling guilty because you are not as enamored by the new bunny as you were for Ivy. While Ivy will always have a special place in your heart, the new bunny will eventually find her place too. Plus you will find comfort seeing Leafy zooming with her.

 

[RinnyRin]

Even after finding Leafy a new friend, you may find yourself feeling guilty because you are not as enamored by the new bunny as you were for Ivy. While Ivy will always have a special place in your heart, the new bunny will eventually find her place too. Plus you will find comfort seeing Leafy zooming with her.

Thank you for this reassurance.

It’s something that has been worrying me as it feels like I’m just trying to find somebun to be a friend for Leafy, but not for me? Like I’m finding someone to fulfil a role.

I don’t want to bring a bun in and not love them…although something tells me that would be impossible as how could you not love an innocent creature in bed of a home!

 

[keletkezes]

Thank you for this reassurance.

It’s something that has been worrying me as it feels like I’m just trying to find somebun to be a friend for Leafy, but not for me? Like I’m finding someone to fulfil a role.

I don’t want to bring a bun in and not love them…although something tells me that would be impossible as how could you not love an innocent creature in bed of a home!

This is exacly how I feel about it and have never been able to put into words, thankyou And I think you do just fall in love with them once they're settled, maybe never as much as the first, and they might not love you back, but it's really rewarding. Barrie's still pretty scared of us sometimes but he's getting better. He's very confident with Chibbs and that was the important thing: that he was a good match for her. I think she'd've prefeerred someone more of a walkover like Lopsy but they get on really well (Chibbs isn't always the friendliest of buns to other buns :lol

 

[RinnyRin]

This is exacly how I feel about it and have never been able to put into words, thankyou And I think you do just fall in love with them once they're settled, maybe never as much as the first, and they might not love you back, but it's really rewarding. Barrie's still pretty scared of us sometimes but he's getting better. He's very confident with Chibbs and that was the important thing: that he was a good match for her. I think she'd've prefeerred someone more of a walkover like Lopsy but they get on really well (Chibbs isn't always the friendliest of buns to other buns :lol

Ivy was quite a skittish little character. Very hands off and independent. Like Leafy is. Watching them zoom, binky and trust you enough to come up to you for the off chance you might give them a treat had me fall in love.

I have no idea what Leafy will be like with another rabbit but we’ll have to wait and see.


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