Your father sounds incredibly controlling. If anybun can't be fostered by Catherine and Loobers I would be happy to have them here. I live alone with no real family and my animals are my life too. Between us we will make sure you have somewhere for them to go if the court orders them to be removed so please try not to worry (easy for me to say, I know).
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Court application for my rabbits removed, what can I do!? U/D #94
- Thread starter ~ILoveMyBunny~
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Hello Ilovemybunny I am sorry that you are having to put up with all the problems. I use to be a city councillor in Sunderland.
I would advise you to ask the local councils domestic Violence unit for help and advice. They will be able to put you in touch with charities that have specialist solicitors that may be able to help you. You may qualify for Legal aid.
This link takes you to safer north Hampshire’s page for domestic abuse. http://www.safernh.co.uk/domestic-abuse/sources-of-support/
The page contains a lot of useful contacts.
It is very nice to know that there so many kind people on this forum.
Tony.
I would advise you to ask the local councils domestic Violence unit for help and advice. They will be able to put you in touch with charities that have specialist solicitors that may be able to help you. You may qualify for Legal aid.
This link takes you to safer north Hampshire’s page for domestic abuse. http://www.safernh.co.uk/domestic-abuse/sources-of-support/
The page contains a lot of useful contacts.
It is very nice to know that there so many kind people on this forum.
Tony.
Leannean27
Alpha Buck
I'm a while away (Worcestershire) but have spare bed and a garage for buns if u need it. More than welcome here. Please please don't feel like you have no one or no options
Book an appointment with your GP, and discuss it with them. They may want to refer you for further treatment under Mental Health services as obviously, a GP has to understand pretty much everything and know exactly where to refer their patients. However, my GP, neurologist and a Mental Health Nurse wrote about my need for my rabbits when I was faced with losing them.
This, definitely. While you are under such pressure from your dad, it is an ideal time to seek help. You have lots of evidence to show you've lived with this for years and are really suffering. This is an opportunity for you to get support.
As usual, RUers are showing everyone how wonderfully supportive they are.
What an amazing community.
This, definitely. While you are under such pressure from your dad, it is an ideal time to seek help. You have lots of evidence to show you've lived with this for years and are really suffering. This is an opportunity for you to get support.
As usual, RUers are showing everyone how wonderfully supportive they are.
What an amazing community.
LagomorphLion
Warren Scout
Hi there.
I am so sorry to hear about what you are going through. You are worth so much more than this.
I'm about an hour and a half away, and dependent on when your rabbits would need to be relocated - if it comes to it - I would be able to foster some too.
Alternatively, the RSPCA have a Pet Retreat service for foster care for animals that need to be relocated due to domestic violence. Whilst they mainly foster out cats and dogs, I'm sure they would be able to accommodate your buns too.
Keeping you, your family and of course your rabbits in my thoughts. x
Suzanna
I am so sorry to hear about what you are going through. You are worth so much more than this.
I'm about an hour and a half away, and dependent on when your rabbits would need to be relocated - if it comes to it - I would be able to foster some too.
Alternatively, the RSPCA have a Pet Retreat service for foster care for animals that need to be relocated due to domestic violence. Whilst they mainly foster out cats and dogs, I'm sure they would be able to accommodate your buns too.
Keeping you, your family and of course your rabbits in my thoughts. x
Suzanna
TheThreeB's
Mama Doe
I'm sorry that you find yourself in such an upsetting and difficult situation. I can't begin to imagine what you must be going through and with having to be a carer for your mum and brother also. Hopefully you will be able to access some support via the channels that have been suggested. You haven't (and maybe would prefer not to say) how old you are, but if you are a young person, there may be some support for young carers that could help in a more general sense.
It does sound as if insisting that your rabbits be removed is just spite. It's not like they should affect any potential buyers and if there's no damage to the property, then I don't really see an issue. Hopefully any court action would result in the the situation being seen for what it is.
I'm a little over an hour away, but would also be willing to help if it came to it xx
It does sound as if insisting that your rabbits be removed is just spite. It's not like they should affect any potential buyers and if there's no damage to the property, then I don't really see an issue. Hopefully any court action would result in the the situation being seen for what it is.
I'm a little over an hour away, but would also be willing to help if it came to it xx
Scrappy's Little Helper
Mama Doe
I'm so sorry you're having to go through all of this. It must be so stressful and upsetting [emoji17]
Other members above have already given you excellent advice. Definitely look into contacting your GP, CAB and the domestic violence unit. I would also suggest contacting disability charities representing people who have the same condition as your mum and brother. They could also be a useful source of support and advice. Given that this sounds very much like a disabled woman and her children suffering harassment from her estranged husband they might very well want to get involved. They would be another useful ally fighting your corner.
It's lovely that so many members have come forward with offers of accommodation for your bunnies if they do need to be fostered temporarily. There is absolutely no doubt that they will all be extremely well looked after.
Just a final thought. Your dad turned down an offer on the house and is now claiming it's unsellable on account of the rabbits. I can imagine the court taking a dim view of that line of argument!
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Other members above have already given you excellent advice. Definitely look into contacting your GP, CAB and the domestic violence unit. I would also suggest contacting disability charities representing people who have the same condition as your mum and brother. They could also be a useful source of support and advice. Given that this sounds very much like a disabled woman and her children suffering harassment from her estranged husband they might very well want to get involved. They would be another useful ally fighting your corner.
It's lovely that so many members have come forward with offers of accommodation for your bunnies if they do need to be fostered temporarily. There is absolutely no doubt that they will all be extremely well looked after.
Just a final thought. Your dad turned down an offer on the house and is now claiming it's unsellable on account of the rabbits. I can imagine the court taking a dim view of that line of argument!
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Jack's-Jane
Wise Old Thumper
I am so sorry that I have not posted on your thread until now. Please do not think it is because I dont care. I hope that the help offered to you on here re care of your beloved Bunnies will be of some comfort. I also hope that you will find the strength to seek additional help for yourself, you are clearly enduring a hellish time.
I urge you to take Tony's advice too,
No-one should have to live in fear of their own Father.
I urge you to take Tony's advice too,
No-one should have to live in fear of their own Father.
MightyMax
Banned
I am so sorry you are in this position 
I have your PM and this is so hard for you. I will respond and in the meantime I add my support to others here and hope that you can sort this terrible situation. The offers to look after your rabbits are very kind and even if you don't take them up, show how much you are cared for and supported by this community.
Hugs x
I have your PM and this is so hard for you. I will respond and in the meantime I add my support to others here and hope that you can sort this terrible situation. The offers to look after your rabbits are very kind and even if you don't take them up, show how much you are cared for and supported by this community.
Hugs x
Leannean27
Alpha Buck
Thinking about you this morning, please let us know your okay x
joey&boo
Wise Old Thumper
You thread is heartbreaking! I'm so sorry you & your mum have to experience this. Its lovely to hear of all the fostering offers on RU. I'd like to echo what Tony says. I used to work with Domestic Abuse & I do think it would be hugely beneficial for the courts to be aware of the level of emotional manipulation he is using. Big hugs xx
~ILoveMyBunny~
Alpha Buck
Thank you all so, so much. You are incredible. RU is incredible. All it's members are incredible. I'm truly taken back by how kind you've all been, especially with the offers of taking them in temporarily. I don't know what to say.
The advice you've all given has been brilliant and I've spent the day phoning various people, mostly to hit dead ends but I spoke to a lovely lady just now from the Hampshire Domestic Abuse service (thank you so much Tony for suggesting it!) who is putting me in touch with a support worker on Monday.
I had the idea of taking a picture of the rabbits in their pens to show how clean and tidy they are to submit to the court as my Mum's solicitor yesterday said something about how they must be running around leaving bits all over the place etc and seems to have the opinion that they're making the house a mess, which they're not. If a judge can see how they're litter trained etc perhaps he'll take a different view?
The other thing my Mum brought to my attention today was that he hasn't actually stated a reason for their removal in the document to be submitted to the court. I made the assumtion that it was him claiming that they were destroying the house etc as he's tried similar accusations in the past, but in the document is simply states that he wants all animals removed within 7 days. No reason is actually given.
I don't mind mentioning my age at all; I'm 25.
For now the weekend is making things difficult, there's a lot I can't do until Monday but I'll keep looking. I did phone about legal aid and was lead to believe that I would get it and was entitled but then told by a third person that I should just contact the police. However the last lady I spoke to has given me the name of somewhere that can give free legal advice so they're next on the list to contact.
As an addition to all of this we've just found out that with all this going on my Mum has missed her appointment with the endocrinologist who has now discharged her; she's under a cancer investigation and was supposed to get the results yesterday (she thought the appointment was today) so now there's that to worry about too as we don't know what the results were..
Thank you all, again, for being so incredibly wonderful through all this. You have no idea what your support means
*Hugs to all*
The advice you've all given has been brilliant and I've spent the day phoning various people, mostly to hit dead ends but I spoke to a lovely lady just now from the Hampshire Domestic Abuse service (thank you so much Tony for suggesting it!) who is putting me in touch with a support worker on Monday.
I had the idea of taking a picture of the rabbits in their pens to show how clean and tidy they are to submit to the court as my Mum's solicitor yesterday said something about how they must be running around leaving bits all over the place etc and seems to have the opinion that they're making the house a mess, which they're not. If a judge can see how they're litter trained etc perhaps he'll take a different view?
The other thing my Mum brought to my attention today was that he hasn't actually stated a reason for their removal in the document to be submitted to the court. I made the assumtion that it was him claiming that they were destroying the house etc as he's tried similar accusations in the past, but in the document is simply states that he wants all animals removed within 7 days. No reason is actually given.
I don't mind mentioning my age at all; I'm 25.
For now the weekend is making things difficult, there's a lot I can't do until Monday but I'll keep looking. I did phone about legal aid and was lead to believe that I would get it and was entitled but then told by a third person that I should just contact the police. However the last lady I spoke to has given me the name of somewhere that can give free legal advice so they're next on the list to contact.
As an addition to all of this we've just found out that with all this going on my Mum has missed her appointment with the endocrinologist who has now discharged her; she's under a cancer investigation and was supposed to get the results yesterday (she thought the appointment was today) so now there's that to worry about too as we don't know what the results were..
Thank you all, again, for being so incredibly wonderful through all this. You have no idea what your support means
*Hugs to all*
Scrappy's Little Helper
Mama Doe
I'm really pleased you're starting to make headway with getting official support and legal advice.
One thing has just occurred to me. I understand that there is a court order in effect banning your father from the property yet he was there recently digging up the garden? Sorry to have to remind you of that as I know what happened was very distressing for you. Does anyone involved in official channels know he did that? I would definitely make sure your case worker is aware of it when you speak to them on Monday. If he was there in violation of a court order then that is contempt of court which is treated as an extremely serious matter.
I think taking lots of photos of the interior of your home to show they're not causing damage or intolerable mess is a good idea. Make sure they're date stamped so his legal counsel can't argue they were taken a long time ago when you first got the bunnies.
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One thing has just occurred to me. I understand that there is a court order in effect banning your father from the property yet he was there recently digging up the garden? Sorry to have to remind you of that as I know what happened was very distressing for you. Does anyone involved in official channels know he did that? I would definitely make sure your case worker is aware of it when you speak to them on Monday. If he was there in violation of a court order then that is contempt of court which is treated as an extremely serious matter.
I think taking lots of photos of the interior of your home to show they're not causing damage or intolerable mess is a good idea. Make sure they're date stamped so his legal counsel can't argue they were taken a long time ago when you first got the bunnies.
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I was going to make this point too. The date-stamped photographs are a good idea.
The point Scrappy makes about the court order is also very valid.
Regarding your Mum's missed appointment, I suggest you contact the hospital on Monday and ask to speak to the Endocrinologist's secretary (NOT Out-patients). Explain the situation briefly and ask whether a further appointment could be made asap or alternatively whether they could give your Mum the results over the telephone or in a letter/email.
I'm glad you've posted today
