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bisc's updated health thread *u/d he's gone*
- Thread starter biscandmatt1
- Start date
Scrappy's Little Helper
Mama Doe
I'm so sorry you fought so hard for him 
Sleep tight Bisc xxx
Sleep tight Bisc xxx
biscandmatt1
Wise Old Thumper
we spent hours and hours lying on the bed with him this afternoon. just stroking him, kissing him, telling him that we love him. just talking really and alot of crying. he's got one of his fleeces around him. we're spending tonight with him aswell as he's being collected to go to the crematorium tomorrow afternoon. or he's booked in at least. i'm struggling with the thought of letting him go. but i know he needs to rest in peace now. and i know i will never be ready for this next step.
he looks so beautiful. like he's doing his favourite flop and just sleeping deeply. x
he looks so beautiful. like he's doing his favourite flop and just sleeping deeply. x
parsnipbun
Wise Old Thumper
I am so very very sorry - you loved them both so very much and they had wonderful lives with you.
MightyMax
Banned
Yes, so peaceful and beautiful. What a wonderful way to remember him. I'm glad you've got this time with him right now.
Bless you both. Sending all my love xx
Jack's-Jane
Wise Old Thumper
You will not be letting him go. All that made Bisc such a special Rabbit does not leave you when his physical form has to do so. The true Bisc is now forever in your heart and nothing and no-one can ever separate you from him. Of course there will be many times when you wish you could see him and cuddle him again. But during those times just sit and think of him, of all he gave you during his lifetime. Alongside the grief you will feel there will also be a realisation that a relationship as special as that you share with Bisc cannot be destroyed, not even by death. Bisc's presence will be with you for as long as you love and remember him, in other words his presence will remain with you forever.
biscandmatt1
Wise Old Thumper
i can't do this. i don't know how to live without him
Jack's-Jane
Wise Old Thumper
i can't do this. i don't know how to live without him
((((((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))))))))
You keep going second by second, one breath at a time. Bisc needs you to keep going to honour the memories he has left for you to treasure. I totally understand the feeling of not wanting to exist and I wont post any trite comments like 'time heals'. In my experience it doesn't, we just learn ways to try to cope with our loss.
I found having to care for my remaining Rabbits provided my with an enforced structure. I admit all I did was purely on automatic pilot. But it kept me 'safe' so-to-speak.
Perhaps you could give the GPs a clean out and maybe a bit of a re-arrangement of their accommodation. Perhaps the OH could go and buy a few new toys for them.
Just take the day one minute at a time ((((((((((((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))) xx
biscandmatt1
Wise Old Thumper
it's just so painful. and all the guilt and what-if's. and all the things he will never do again. i feel so angry, so sad, so guilty. we've been through so much together. it's been such a long time and it's just all so different now and will never be the same ever again.
knowing we have to hand him over later is just killing me. i will never stroke him again or kiss his little ears. i just feel a sense of peace being in his presence.
i will try and get through a bit at a time. i've had some bad times but this is the worst thing that has ever happened to me
Jack's-Jane
Wise Old Thumper
it's just so painful. and all the guilt and what-if's. and all the things he will never do again. i feel so angry, so sad, so guilty. we've been through so much together. it's been such a long time and it's just all so different now and will never be the same ever again.
knowing we have to hand him over later is just killing me. i will never stroke him again or kiss his little ears. i just feel a sense of peace being in his presence.
i will try and get through a bit at a time. i've had some bad times but this is the worst thing that has ever happened to me
Can you ask your OH to trim off a bit of Bisc's fur. Then you can place some of it in a keepsake locket. I have done this with some of Morse's fur and a wear the locket every day.
I cant give you a magic formula to cope with your grief as we are all so different and what helps one person may not help another. All I will say is that there is no 'I should not be feeling like this' (whatever 'this may happen to be). How you feel is how you feel.
I know that we cant do much but listen and try to offer you empathetic support. We cant take the raw pain away or make any of it seem 'OK'. But speaking for myself I find just knowing that I can post my feelings of utter despair on here and most people will be kind in their responses, even if they cannot fully 'understand'. Those who dont want to offer a kind word need not bother opening the thread. So please dont feel that you cant post as much as you need to, there will always be someone here to 'talk' with
(((((((((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))))))))))) xx
MightyMax
Banned
it's just so painful. and all the guilt and what-if's. and all the things he will never do again. i feel so angry, so sad, so guilty. we've been through so much together. it's been such a long time and it's just all so different now and will never be the same ever again.
knowing we have to hand him over later is just killing me. i will never stroke him again or kiss his little ears. i just feel a sense of peace being in his presence.
i will try and get through a bit at a time. i've had some bad times but this is the worst thing that has ever happened to me
It will never be the same again, but you will be able to love again although it will be different. And you have those GP's to keep you occupied in the meantime
And guilt? We all feel guilty as you know when something like this happens. But you and OH have done everything you could possibly do to make that little man's life a heaven on earth. Please try and be kind to yourselves, as no one could've done more than you both did, and you know I mean that from the bottom of my heart.
What will you do to create a lasting memory of bisc? Some people buy a plant or rose, or have the ashes in a keepsake box ....
Hugs xxx
BerryJane
Alpha Buck
I am so sorry for your loss.
It is such a heartbreaking time for you.
As others have said, try to take comfort in knowing what an amazing life you gave Bisc - as you did Matt. All you could give him, you did, what more can a rabbit want in life than to receive the love and respect you gave.
Take care and time. Xxxx
It is such a heartbreaking time for you.
As others have said, try to take comfort in knowing what an amazing life you gave Bisc - as you did Matt. All you could give him, you did, what more can a rabbit want in life than to receive the love and respect you gave.
Take care and time. Xxxx
bunny momma
Wise Old Thumper
I am so sorry for your loss and understand your reluctance to let him go.
Jack's-Jane
Wise Old Thumper
Sending a supportive hug L. I know how awful each day can be xx
