. . . is it best to avoid it or to persevere in the hope that they will get better in time?
When I got Coffee she HATED being handled (although enjoyed nose rubs etc!) and when I picked her up she would struggle constantly to get away, kicking and grunting. No agression as such though. She has made some improvement and a few times I have been able to carry her when she has been calm. I usually pick her up twice a day to go out for a run and then back home. I am worried though that she may hurt herself either by struggling free or because I have to grip her so tight to stop her from falling. I don't want to stress her out and she seems a bit highly strung anyway. Would it be better to give in and just move her in a carrier?
When I got Coffee she HATED being handled (although enjoyed nose rubs etc!) and when I picked her up she would struggle constantly to get away, kicking and grunting. No agression as such though. She has made some improvement and a few times I have been able to carry her when she has been calm. I usually pick her up twice a day to go out for a run and then back home. I am worried though that she may hurt herself either by struggling free or because I have to grip her so tight to stop her from falling. I don't want to stress her out and she seems a bit highly strung anyway. Would it be better to give in and just move her in a carrier?