Monty's Human
Alpha Buck
It's hard to explain, but probably because I've worked with so many hundreds of rescue rabbits over many years, I have a 'firm but fair' grip that even the feistiest rabbit can't thwart! It wasn't always that way, and I have war wounds to prove it. But if you do it like you mean it - you're not going to hurt them, but not going to let them struggle and jump away - eventually they will realise that resistance is futile and also that you are genuinely helping them. Don't allow your own fear or frustration onto the scene - just a business-like approach with lots of concentration.
Sorry, I know you didn't ask for that little soap-box :lol:
It's really difficult working out how much you can "squeeze" them! When they jump out your arms it's dreadful, so you want to be "firm", but they do have a way of making you feel horribly guilty and cruel, don't they?
Monty seems to have finally learnt that if he's struggling and I place a hand on the back of his head, that means "I'm not letting you go, calm down", and he does tend to stop struggling.
I don't know how recommended it is, but having tried holding them horizontally and it just not working, I now carry mine vertically, front paws on shoulder and arms under back legs. That seems to help as well, and I nuzzle up next to them as we walk, which again, just says "It's ok, don't panic". All things to try and avoid "squeezing"!
For preference, I would still only be picking them up when it's time for grooming/nail clipping, just to teach them not to be afraid of being picked up, that there's a very definite sequence and they know what will happen - pick up - onto lap - groom/nail trim - treats - go again. But if you don't need to groom regularly, I can see where you'd want to get some practice runs in
(I don't know that my rambles are any use, but hopefully it at least says that you're not alone and we've all been there with bunnies!)