Tips for bonding with my new rabbits

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Hi, I have 2 mini lop rabbits who are around 10 weeks old. I only got them 2 weeks ago so I know things are all still very new and it will take time to build trust but I’m just looking for tips on the best way I can build a bond with them? They are living outside so I’m not able to be around them all the time but I really want to build trust with them and a relationship where they are actually pleased to see me.

At the moment they will come over and sniff me and sometimes let me stroke them a little bit but only when I feed them and they’re sitting eating. They mostly run away if I try to touch them and then come out a few seconds later though.
 
I agree with this advice. Rabbits are prey animals and so usually they will be very wary of new owners and in new locations. It also might be the case, that your bunnies are never truly comfortable with being handled. I'm afraid that some bunnies just aren't.

It will be helpful if you let the bunnies come to you and certainly for now, I would not attempt to stroke them if they run away. Spend some time just being with them, tidying up their accommodation or just sitting reading. They will then not see you as a threat.

It's also a good idea to get them used to their carrier, which you will need to take them to the vet. Try just putting it in their accommodation now and again, maybe with some food in, so that they can explore it.
 
I also have outside rabbits, and mine were pretty "hand shy" at first too. I am by no means a rabbit expert, but what I found most helpful was to pretend they've always been there. Just do the routine, they'll get used to it. Sometimes I pretend they're not even there, and they'll go over and sit on my feet! Also, take a look at and "triggers" that might make them run away. For example, I wear a specific green sweater whenever it's time to do their weekly clip and groom (to protect my arms!), and any time they see me in my sweater, then run off or refuse to come out. On grooming days, I actually have to get them out first, then put on my sweater!

Food is also a huge motivator. My rabbits started to like me because I was The Bringer of Pellets. Hand feeding is really good too, just by patient, they'll go to you.

If they're young, there's still time to get them used to being handled too, so don't be afraid. That's one of the worst things I did, honestly. We were so worried about picking them up, they never got used to it. Now they're older, and they don't like it as much as if we'd had picked them up consistently when they were babies. It's not too late, but it would've been easier! A confident hand is really important, don't be afraid or hesitant, they will pick up on it (all animals will!)

Even after 7(ish??) months, my rabbits aren't what I would call "cuddly". They're very hands-off. They'll tolerant of a few pets, or they'll try to use my lap as a launching pad, but they'll rarely ever sit on my like a cat. They mostly like to sit under me or on my feet (especially when I'm walking!)

***Again, I'm still really new at rabbits, only had them for 7(ish?) months***

Omi has a really good point about the carrier. Make it something fun. My rabbits are weirdly in love with their carrier, so I never have to worry about them not going inside. Just putting it inside of the enclosure with some food or toys is great.
 
Yes, I think (healthy) treats are very helpful. Getting them to associate you with something good will be a big help. Just hand-feeding them their daily pellets rather than putting them in a bowl has always worked wonders with new buns for me. Being near with them without trying to touch them or force them into anything will let them see that you're not someone they have to fear. Once they've learned that, they'll likely start approaching you on their own (especially if you have food!), though some bunnies just aren't very interested in human interaction and never will be. It's still great fun to watch those bunnies go about their day, though.

If they're young, there's still time to get them used to being handled too, so don't be afraid. That's one of the worst things I did, honestly. We were so worried about picking them up, they never got used to it. Now they're older, and they don't like it as much as if we'd had picked them up consistently when they were babies. It's not too late, but it would've been easier! A confident hand is really important, don't be afraid or hesitant, they will pick up on it (all animals will!)

Even after 7(ish??) months, my rabbits aren't what I would call "cuddly". They're very hands-off. They'll tolerant of a few pets, or they'll try to use my lap as a launching pad, but they'll rarely ever sit on my like a cat. They mostly like to sit under me or on my feet (especially when I'm walking!)
To be honest, I don't think it would have made a big difference if you had picked them up a lot when they were younger. The age at which bunnies should get used to being handled is quite young, around 5-6 weeks, while they're still with their mum. If that hasn't happened, by the time they've moved into their new home, it's unlikely that they're ever going to get used to it to such a degree that they won't mind it. Baby bunnies are often still fine with it, but as they get older that normally stops. Usually what happens if you pick bunnies up a lot to make them get used to it, is they might eventually give up fighting it because they learn there's no point, so they'll stay still, but they're still afraid. All the picking up will cause them stress, and I wouldn't recommend it, especially when they're still learning to trust their new human(s), because it will be nearly impossible to get them to trust you if you keep forcing them into something that scares them.

There are of course exceptions, and bunnies who need a lot of hands-on care can be(come) fine with it, but bunnies, on average, just don't like being handled and never will. It's better to minimise the instances when you need to pick them up rather than pick them up a lot with the aim of them getting used to it. You can lure them into an box or a carrier, for example, or do stuff on the ground. If they don't get picked up regularly, they're also less likely to run away when you do ever need to pick them up, because they're not expecting it. If Chika and Cinny find their weekly clip and groom so stressful that you need to protect your arms, I would try to see what you can do to make it less scary for them, or do it less frequently.

Chika and Cinny sound like very typical buns! Most bunnies won't sit on your lap like a cat, and of all the bunnies I've lived with, only one has been cuddly. I think the forum might give a bit of a skewed picture sometimes, because people will talk about petting and cuddling the buns who like it, but we don't talk about all the cuddling we're not doing with the bunnies who don't! :LOL:
 
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That's interesting about handling them when young! I thought, like most animals, the more you handled them as babies, the more they'd be use to it. But I can see how getting older might stop that, especially with flighty animals like rabbits! In a way, I suppose I'm glad we were too scared to be picking them up all the time. We only pick them up for grooming or emergencies, like if one's trying to escape (but even then, that's not really the best action!)

We clip the girls once a week, and they are getting better, but we're not there yet. I found it's best in the morning, when they're actually up and running. We clip them and groom them, then let them out for a run in the yard (fenced by a huge dog pen) and they chill out considerably. They don't mind the grooming, but the clipping is another matter. Picking them up is probably the worst part for them, even if they've got banana or some other treat. A confident hand is still really important, but jeez that's easier said than done! If anyone has advice, I am more than welcome to suggestions!!!

Bunnies really are hands-off!! My mom says they're kind of like aquarium fish: watch only (or in this case mostly!). And I love watching them play together. They don't need me to have a good time 🤣.

It is weird though, how although they don't want to sit on top of me, they want to sit under me!! 🤣
 
I suspect that if you had picked them up lots when they were young, they would be even more hands-off than they are now, because they wouldn't like you much :ROFLMAO: Do you mean you clip their nails every week? I think people will have some tips to make things easier, but maybe it's best to make a new thread so we don't take over New_member's.
 
Thanks so much everyone 🙂. To be honest, I’m really pleased with the progress they’re making. We’ve had them just over 2 weeks and they’re already happy to come over and sniff me whenever I go out to them. One even jumped onto my lap recently! I stroke them in the mornings when I go out to feed them and they don’t try to run away, they seem quite relaxed. I hope I’m not reading their body language wrong! I go out to see them throughout the day and they aren’t as happy to let me stroke them at those times so I just leave them if they run away when I try and just sit with them instead.

On another note, I’m starting to realise that having them outside means that I won’t get to be around them anywhere near as much as I would like, especially as the weather starts getting colder. I’m starting to think about having them as indoor pets instead but my only option space wise would be to have a dog crate in my living room. I would solely use this as their ‘base’ for litter tray, food & water bowls and somewhere to hide away if they want. I wouldn’t shut them in and they’d have the whole living room to exercise. I just wondered if anyone else does this? Or do you think they would prefer to be outside so that they have time away from humans?
 
Aw, it does sound like they're making good progress getting to know and trust you :love: It sounds like you're doing a great job with them, giving them attention when they want it, and leaving them be when they they don't.

I used to have a big dog crate as a base for the bunnies when I had a really small apartment. It worked fine, since, like your idea, it was just for their food and litter tray and some private space, and they were never locked in there. I think as long as they have a quiet space to retreat to away from human busyness, and you respect it and don't bother them there, they don't need to be outside to get time away from humans. Some bunnies do prefer to be outside, though. But others prefer to be indoors, so who knows what your buns are like. I do personally like having my bunnies inside with me much more than when I was keeping bunnies outside. As you said, when they're outside you likely don't get to spend as much time with them, especially in winter when it's cold and dark. If you want to move them indoors, it'd be best to do it very soon before they develop their winter coats, as it'll be easier for them to adjust to the temperature indoors.
 
Yes, it's hard to find time with the rabbits when it gets colder. That's why we make a big deal of cleaning their enclosure every morning. It's our bonding time. I scoop poop, they run around like idiots and get in my way! We find joy in our little moments, and they have each other, so they're not lonely. I watch them from our window, and believe me, they have fun all by themselves! I'd personally love to have them inside, but my mom's really allergic, so right now that's not a reality. Still, there are lots of members here who have outdoor buns who prefer it that way.

I hate to add this point, but keeping the rabbits outside will save your house. Rabbits love to chew and poo all over the place (and sometimes pee). They're not always the best at keeping it in the litter box and shedding is a thing. That's also part of the reason why I'm okay with them being outside. I don't own my own house, so I can't just let my little girls run amok! But I'd totally be okay with fixing chew marks and cleaning poo off the carpet for a chance to have my rabbits inside.

Big agreement with Reader on bringing them in before they get winter coats. *I don't know how rabbits get*, but some animals don't do well if they're brought inside after being in a very cold winter for a while, with their winter coat in and everything.
 
Having a whole house to explore sounds fab. My buns dont have a crate but they have areas dedicated to toileting & have adopted rest zones where I'm not welcome (under the beds & hideaways). I love having my bunnies inside but cinnabun does make a good point ... its in their nature to chew & its rare there won't be damage to home furnishings, fixtures & personal belongings. For me its worth it ...everywhere is chewed to hell anyway by now 🤣 🤣 Bonding sounds like its going great. You'll be reading them right...if they didn't want pets they'd be off. My 2 are very variable in their willingness to accept strokes. My boy ranges from flattening himself by your side to ask for groomies to running off with a tail flick.

Reader has loads of good advice. Good luck in your decision
 
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