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    It’s not that I don’t like her – but not all personalities click. Keep in mind I have made every effort. When Finn passed away (her original bonded bunny), I really used this time to give her my attention and work on her issues. I would lay on the floor with her, sit in her pen with her, handle her and have her on my lap. But she’s just not happy with attention. I feel I have to remove myself just so she can settle down and feel free to move around. When I feed then, I have to move out of the way quickly so she gets fed otherwise the other two will eat everything (they are vultures!). I have tried separating them during meal times but she then just focuses on going back with the other 2 and leaves her food until she is back with them. I have had to fight to get her weight back as she lost a lot of weight due to sitting back and not eating as I would be around. Thankfully she has gained some weight due to a few changes.

    She has been an outdoor bunny before she was an indoor bunny and she was a lot worse! She has improved a lot since the work I have on her, all I am saying is that I don’t feel as strong a click with her – which is something I can’t help despite trying.

    She does binky and zoom around the place, but not as often as the younger ones and doesn’t appear to be unhappy from what I can see. She doesn’t appear depressed, and her eating (when I am out of the way!) is fine, more like she lacks any kind of self-awareness even if that is on bunny scale. Id say she dislikes me more then i dislike her! It makes it hard to click with a pet that doesn't appear to like you - yes it could be their way but again personalities can clash a bit.

    Regarding socializing with my other bunnies – again not as much. Of course she will socialise with them more then me, but she is quite happy to sit on her own in a dark corner, and because of her behavior I have to stop bullying, as the other two are completely dominant over her and she allows it. However that said, she will insist on stirring up trouble by attempting to mount them both while they are all settled knowing what the outcome will be, then when they try to mount her back she will moan grim-death like someone is killing her – so I have to constantly step in. I know this is normal with bunnies (mounting), but again its her over reactive response. She didn't have to do that. During the bonding process she didn’t interact and just allowed them to have their way. When Finn died I felt really sad for her as she was grieving his loss, but insisted on sitting on her own. She’s a very stubborn bunny – and I think it’s the years of what feels like disrespect or gratitude for help or effort.

    As for sight – I am not to sure! I have thought about this however and trimmed the fur around her eyes. If this can be tested I will get my vet to take a look.

    Its not that I don't lover her - she just frustrates me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Finn.The.Mini.Lop.Bun View Post
    she just frustrates me.
    I have that effect on most people !


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    I'm wondering how she was with Finn? When you say you have to stop bullying from the other two bunnies, and that she gets really upset when they try to mount her after she mounts them, it doesn't sound like a very happy bond for her, to be honest. It's not unusual for one bunny to be left out when you have a trio, and so I wonder if she's alone so much because she just doesn't have a great bond with the other two? Since you say she grieved Finn's loss, it sounds like the two of them were close?

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    Quote Originally Posted by a reader of books View Post
    I'm wondering how she was with Finn? When you say you have to stop bullying from the other two bunnies, and that she gets really upset when they try to mount her after she mounts them, it doesn't sound like a very happy bond for her, to be honest. It's not unusual for one bunny to be left out when you have a trio, and so I wonder if she's alone so much because she just doesn't have a great bond with the other two? Since you say she grieved Finn's loss, it sounds like the two of them were close?

    No, no - she mounts them! They retaliate to her. She is already lower on the pecking order as during bonding she made no effort and just sat there. So to help her we had to bond the other 2 first, and then Myrtle to the new doe and then all 3 together. However, she is (not surprising) lower on the pecking order. However she will insist on mounting the other 2 when they are sleeping which displeases them. So then they will chase her off or mount her and she completely over reacts to something she started off. Its so annoying.
    The bond otherwise is very chilled providing she doesn't annoy them! https://www.instagram.com/p/CFcpO_5lfDK/

    All my buns get 5 star everything, they get vet checked once a month and get the checked for everything. So any illnesses i would know - but it would be interesting to see about eye sight.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Finn.The.Mini.Lop.Bun View Post
    No, no - she mounts them! They retaliate to her. She is already lower on the pecking order as during bonding she made no effort and just sat there. So to help her we had to bond the other 2 first, and then Myrtle to the new doe and then all 3 together. However, she is (not surprising) lower on the pecking order. However she will insist on mounting the other 2 when they are sleeping which displeases them. So then they will chase her off or mount her and she completely over reacts to something she started off. Its so annoying.
    The bond otherwise is very chilled providing she doesn't annoy them! https://www.instagram.com/p/CFcpO_5lfDK/

    All my buns get 5 star everything, they get vet checked once a month and get the checked for everything. So any illnesses i would know - but it would be interesting to see about eye sight.
    I know, that's what I said, that they mount her after she mounts them. I don't really think you can say she overreacts when you don't know what's going on in her head, though. I can see why it's annoying to you that she gets upset after something she started, but you can't expect a bunny to reason like a human. She might mount them for a reason that's obvious to her, but their mounting or chasing her in return might scare her. I'm glad their bond is otherwise very chilled. They look very cute in that photo. =)

    Edit: If she gets checked by a vet once a month, it'd be unlikely that they missed any problems with her sight, but it would be worth it to ask about it specifically.
    Last edited by a reader of books; 21-10-2020 at 06:27 PM. Reason: forgot something

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    I think it’s understandable to want a close bond with your bunny and it is disappointing when they don’t show much care for you. I’ve had both kinds even though I treated them the same. I had a female who literally turned her back to me or sat furtherest away every time. Never came for rubs. Her bonded male however was much more sociable and fun but he seemed torn between staying with her and coming to us to interact and play. Eventually he just sat with her too and that was it, they were just happy together and that was without us and I accepted that. It was a bit like having a pet that you care for, provide for but it’s quite one sided. It’s true they all have different personalities and it’s the best thing when they interact with you socially, this is why my Lionhead is my favourite, but also different people want different things from their pets too.

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    Have you considered rehoming her, to give someone else a chance to work with her and potentially give her a happier life if she isn’t seeming to be happy at the moment?

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