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My amazing Doughnut has gone, I've just put her to sleep

To be honest getting another pet always helps me. I would never think they would be replacing them anyway. Everyone's different but there's a real void when they've gone, not least if they're the only person you've got
 
cpayne said:
Thank you everyone for your kind posts. It's so lovely knowing you all understand. For the first time in nearly 9 years I didn't need to get up early to give her her medicine. I hate it. I want to see that little face that I kissed so often. It's unbearable. Everyone is there for me. Coming round to keep me company and calling but I feel lonely. I know it will get better and I'll stop crying eventually. I can't eat or sleep.

I'm wondering if getting another bunny hopping around may help. Not to replace her as I would wait a while but to have a purpose and someone to give nose rubs to.
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I would give it time and then consider adopting a bonded pair from a Rescue. I say that as I know you work and having 2 bonded Bunnies would mean they'd have company whilst you cannot be around. Maybe you could Foster a pair of Bunnies for a local Rescue and see how it works out. You may end up deciding to adopt them.
 
It's difficult to know when the time is right to welcome another bun after a bereavement. I've done it too soon before because a remaining bun was so lonely and I work long hours. I kept wanting the new bun to be the one who had died and thought I would never love her and I had made a dreadful mistake. She soon won my heart and I did love her for who she was, different, but still special in her own unique way.

I have also rescued a bun soon after a bereavement and found that concentrating on her needs - getting her to trust me and be able to enjoy space and freedom - really helped me heal from my loss.

I don't think there is any 'right' time. It's a personal decision that can change following each bereavement. I always feel that bunnies choose me, rather than the other way around, and if I am open to welcoming another furry one, one always appears at some point.

That probably makes no sense at all and I know it's contradictory :oops:

Good luck with whatever you decide. Doughnut had an amazing home with you.
 
Jack's-Jane said:
I would give it time and then consider adopting a bonded pair from a Rescue. I say that as I know you work and having 2 bonded Bunnies would mean they'd have company whilst you cannot be around. Maybe you could Foster a pair of Bunnies for a local Rescue and see how it works out. You may end up deciding to adopt them.
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This is a good idea:love:
 
I felt the same pain as you did - as we all have at some stage, and for me, to try to ease the grieving pain, I went down the adoption route. I really like the suggestion of an already bonded pair because that part of the process is done for you and there are loads of bonded buns in rescue homes that would love to get their forever home with you. It has to feel right for you and whilst no other bun could ever replace Doughnut, and you wouldn't want that, you can still give that love to other buns who would have their lives enriched from being with you in your care. xx
 
Well today is my birthday and I've never had such an unhappy one. I'm trying to concentrate on the joy of having a new bunny in my home which I think is the only think that will cheer me up. I get doughnuts ashes back next Saturday so once I've got her home I think I'll step up my search. The nurse at my specialist contacted me as doughnut was her favourite. She said there was a rabbit that reminded her of doughnut at a rescue. They had operated on her. I said why did she remind you of her and she said such a gorgeous temperament and also sassy. That rabbit has now been rehomed as I checked but sure the right one will come along
 
I'm so sorry that you haven't enjoyed your birthday, understandable really. I'm pleased that you are looking forward, and thinking about adopting another bunny. Anybun would be so lucky to have a home with you. Big birthday hugs for you xx
 
I hope you're doing ok, at least as well as you can do in the circumstances. I'm sorry you haven't had a great birthday [emoji17]

I can understand you wanting another bunny in the near future. I got two bunnies about 2 months after I lost my first bun Scrappy. I learned so much about rabbits from having her and I came to the realisation that giving other bunnies a forever home was the best tribute to her. I could take everything she'd taught me and make sure that I could give other rabbits the best home and the best care it was possible to give.

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I saw a little bunny at a rescue where the breeder was going to shoot her. She was a sweet little thing but they wanted to rehome to someone with another bunny.
I'm really struggling to function through lack of sleep and my eyes are so sore. Can't believe I can cry any more but I continue to do so
 
cpayne said:
I saw a little bunny at a rescue where the breeder was going to shoot her. She was a sweet little thing but they wanted to rehome to someone with another bunny.
I'm really struggling to function through lack of sleep and my eyes are so sore. Can't believe I can cry any more but I continue to do so
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:cry: have they got another bunny you could ask them to bond with for you.

Thinking of you and sending hugs, I know how hard it is :cry:
 
Just had a lovely card from my specialist with a bunny on it. Such lovely words about me and doughnut
 
The right bunny will come along. I get how painful & raw it is for you, IME even more difficult without the distraction of other fluffy friends around.

It sound like Doughnut, quite rightly, stole the hearts of everyone she met, whether online on IRL. Still thinking of you xx
 
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