Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 13

Thread: I've tried every thing, but Kiwi will never love me :(

  1. #1
    New Kit
    Join Date
    Nov 2019
    Location
    New Brunswick, CA
    Posts
    9

    Default I've tried every thing, but Kiwi will never love me :(

    Ok so, I'm a new member, and I have an issue.

    I just got a new holland lop, kiwi, two months ago. We were originally told the he was a girl, but a month later, upon further investigation discovered that Kiwi is in fact a boy!!! Anyway, at the beginning things were going okay, he was scared but we were bonding a little. I would lie down in his pen and read a book and occasionally he would come out, sniff me and let me give him one or two head pets. One time he even flopped right next to me! But, in recent weeks, he seems less affectionate and really, like he couldn't care less about me! He only lets me pet him if he's flopped in his favorite spot in his cage (he has a cage with the door open that leads to a play pen) and sometimes he tooth purrs. He NEVER licks or shows affection and I just don't know what to do.

    Also, he becomes very aggressive in certain situations, like when he pees on my bed after I take him off and try to clean it, he will lunge at me and bite me it usually takes him 4-5 hours to calm down! Also recently, after I gave him his nightly treats, and he did tricks, he became very energetic and angry and lunged at me, biting, breaking the skin! He has bit before on a couple of occasions though, so I was not surprised that he would bite.

    I'm at the end of my rope, but I will not give up! I LOVE this bunny with my whole heart, and will do what ever it takes. It just feels like he will NEVER love me I've tried everything, letting him run around in my room while laying on the floor, giving him treats when he comes up to me, but it just isn't improving. He is at puberty age, around 5 months, is this where his sudden intensified aggression is coming from? He was always a little spunky, but it appears to have multiplied, and he gets angry for no reason! Do I just need to get him neutered? Will he love me more after the neuter? Am I giving it enough time, it's only been 2 months. I've tried every hack in the book, will he ever love me????

  2. #2
    Forum Buddy Liz47's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2010
    Location
    East Yorkshire
    Posts
    8,739

    Default

    Hello and welcome! I would recommend getting him neutered, it may change his behaviour and is likely to calm him down and stop behaviours such as peeing on your bed, it is also better for his health. But it may not make him more affectionate, some rabbits are naturally more aloof. I'm sure he does love you though! I've only ever had one rabbit who would groom me, binky when he saw me and wanted to spend time sat on/beside me. All my other rabbits have been very happy spending time with their bonded partners but do still enjoy some human company and enjoy a good head/nose rub when the mood takes them! They can show they are happy in your presence in other ways, such as eating, flopping (even if not near you) and playing with their toys/enrichment

    IF YOU NEED HELP WITH ANYTHING PLEASE SEND ME A PM OR ANY OF THE OTHER FORUM BUDDIES

  3. #3
    New Kit
    Join Date
    Nov 2019
    Location
    New Brunswick, CA
    Posts
    9

    Default

    Thank you so much! I think I was panicking a little too much! Do you have any idea why he would be in such a mood after peeing on my bed?? Do you recommend I get him a friend, if so, make it female??? It would also be a lot of work! Bonding them, getting them neutered/spayed, getting enough space, food, attention etc.
    PS your bunnies are adorable

  4. #4
    New Kit
    Join Date
    Nov 2019
    Location
    New Brunswick, CA
    Posts
    9

    Default Bunny is aloof

    Hi Iíve just gotten a new bunny around 2 months ago. Iím aware that theyíre not exactly cuddly, but mine just really doesnít seem interested in me. Iíve already posted about this and gotten some amazing advice, but I would like reassurance My best friend Samantha recently got a pre-owned bunny that her friend gave her (Her friend didnít have the time for her anymore) and Sams bunny LOVES her i.e. licks, cuddles, never bites, etc. Sam has only had her for a few weeks and Iíve had kiwi for a month! Does anyone have any advice to help make kiwi more affectionate? (keeping in mind he isnít fixed yet) Kiwi NEVER licks, cuddles and bites a lot. From previous advice I believe the biting and aggression is because he isnít fixed, but He wonít even flop near me!
    Your help is appreciated -Schuyler (aka Kiwiís mom)

  5. #5
    Forum Buddy Liz47's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2010
    Location
    East Yorkshire
    Posts
    8,739

    Default

    I'm not sure, perhaps he is annoyed about you removing the scent? He may be wee'ing on there to mark it as his area as he likes it! Bunnies do better in pairs, a male and female pair works best, both need to be spayed/neutered Thank you, I have a trio of two girls and a boy!

    IF YOU NEED HELP WITH ANYTHING PLEASE SEND ME A PM OR ANY OF THE OTHER FORUM BUDDIES

  6. #6
    Moderator Zoobec's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2013
    Posts
    34,100

    Default

    I agree with what Liz has said I’ll move this to behaviour and bonding for you.

    Binky free at the bridge Boots, you will never be forgotten xxxx

  7. #7
    Moderator Zoobec's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2013
    Posts
    34,100

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Kiwi_the_bunny View Post
    Hi I’ve just gotten a new bunny around 2 months ago. I’m aware that they’re not exactly cuddly, but mine just really doesn’t seem interested in me. I’ve already posted about this and gotten some amazing advice, but I would like reassurance My best friend Samantha recently got a pre-owned bunny that her friend gave her (Her friend didn’t have the time for her anymore) and Sams bunny LOVES her i.e. licks, cuddles, never bites, etc. Sam has only had her for a few weeks and I’ve had kiwi for a month! Does anyone have any advice to help make kiwi more affectionate? (keeping in mind he isn’t fixed yet) Kiwi NEVER licks, cuddles and bites a lot. From previous advice I believe the biting and aggression is because he isn’t fixed, but He won’t even flop near me!
    Your help is appreciated -Schuyler (aka Kiwi’s mom)
    I merged this thread with your other thread on the same subject as you already had replies on that one

    Binky free at the bridge Boots, you will never be forgotten xxxx

  8. #8
    New Kit
    Join Date
    Nov 2019
    Location
    New Brunswick, CA
    Posts
    9

    Default

    Thank you all for your help!!! I will try to use all of your advice ❤️

  9. #9
    Forum Buddy Craig 1965's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2017
    Location
    Ipswich
    Posts
    3,000

    Default

    Hello and welcome to the forum.
    Firstly, I agree with Liz's advice.
    Rabbits can present quite challenging emotive behaviour at times - and for us as carers for them, it is also complex to understand because they don't vocalise. I am su Kiwi is noton a personal mission against you. Some rabbits instantly bond with their hoomans - and that is for those lucky enough, a deep and special bond. The affection that you refer to is reserved only for a few bunnies and there is no pattern or rhyme or reason to it. I was fortunate enough to have such a special bun who sadly is now at the bridge, and none of my other bunnies have shown the same intensity of emotion or attachment to me.
    A bunny takes quite some time to build up trust with the hooman and as Liz suggested, neutering Kiwi will reduce the hormones (testosterone) and calm him down somewhat. It will also give health benefits later in life for him. But it will curb the aggressive behaviour.
    Will he 'love you' after neutering? Without sounding harsh - I do not wish or intend to offend, but, as with any form of relationship, 'love' as such, is something that has many forms. Rabbits largely will need to trust first - from Kiwi's perspective, everything is all new for him and in rabbit world, he is assuming dominance because that is how his emotions act. The peeing on the bed is his way of marking an area for his use. As much as we may have a favorite toy, or item of clothing, rabbits, Kiwi, is saying 'this area is mine' and you washing it off, as far as Kiwi is concerned, is an act against him.
    But I also understand that you need to ensure Kiwi has boundaries and so it would not be acceptable for Kiwi to pee on the bed. Again, neutering should sort this issue out.
    Over time, and at Kiwi's pace, he will trust you in his own way, and over time, that trust will form a bond - a simbient relationship that will have it's own boundaries.
    You need to learn his body languages as he will rely on your observations for his wellbeing.
    Kiwi isn't doing this behaviour out of malice - he is just behaving as he knows. Be patient, support him and reassure him and continue to show the unconditional love for him and he will grow to love you in his way.
    IF YOU NEED HELP WITH ANYTHING PLEASE SEND ME A PM OR ANY OF THE OTHER FORUM BUDDIES

  10. #10
    Alpha Buck jewaller's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2009
    Location
    kent,wash.usa
    Posts
    541

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Kiwi_the_bunny View Post
    Ok so, I'm a new member, and I have an issue.

    I just got a new holland lop, kiwi, two months ago. We were originally told the he was a girl, but a month later, upon further investigation discovered that Kiwi is in fact a boy!!! Anyway, at the beginning things were going okay, he was scared but we were bonding a little. I would lie down in his pen and read a book and occasionally he would come out, sniff me and let me give him one or two head pets. One time he even flopped right next to me! But, in recent weeks, he seems less affectionate and really, like he couldn't care less about me! He only lets me pet him if he's flopped in his favorite spot in his cage (he has a cage with the door open that leads to a play pen) and sometimes he tooth purrs. He NEVER licks or shows affection and I just don't know what to do.

    Also, he becomes very aggressive in certain situations, like when he pees on my bed after I take him off and try to clean it, he will lunge at me and bite me it usually takes him 4-5 hours to calm down! Also recently, after I gave him his nightly treats, and he did tricks, he became very energetic and angry and lunged at me, biting, breaking the skin! He has bit before on a couple of occasions though, so I was not surprised that he would bite.

    I'm at the end of my rope, but I will not give up! I LOVE this bunny with my whole heart, and will do what ever it takes. It just feels like he will NEVER love me I've tried everything, letting him run around in my room while laying on the floor, giving him treats when he comes up to me, but it just isn't improving. He is at puberty age, around 5 months, is this where his sudden intensified aggression is coming from? He was always a little spunky, but it appears to have multiplied, and he gets angry for no reason! Do I just need to get him neutered? Will he love me more after the neuter? Am I giving it enough time, it's only been 2 months. I've tried every hack in the book, will he ever love me????
    dear kiwi_the_bunny,--I once had a beautiful-male black cat-raised him from a new born-when it came time for the guillotine,he conveniently disappeared,-I searched for weeks-only to see him long enough for verification-never caught him,never came home..--mixed feeling here-sincerely james waller from the other kent-usa

Bookmarks

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •