I used to get so distressed by my rabbits not behaving as I wanted to, be it making noise and waking me up, weeing on my bed, weeing on my laptop, chewing holes in my clothers, tearing up my carpet, or anything else. It just used to drive me to distraction.
The only way I was able to survive, and eventually come to love living in their room with them was to lose my expectations of them. My wants for their behaviour were based on me, not what was realistic for a rabbit. I'd humanised them so much that I thought they were deliberately doing things to wind me up, or to wake me up, or whatever, and, they kind of were, but with a totally different motive than what I felt it was. I had to really work to get that they don't have the cognitive ability and human manner that I was placing onto them, and actually, they were just being bunnies.
Once I got that, I then had the power to adapt my room so that they couldn't do all the things that were driving me crazy (or that they could still do them, but it didn't matter anymore). Knowing that ultimately I was responsible for the space empowered me, and removed all frustration from them. If something happens now, then that's my error (like when they chewed my iphone charger, or my bra strap off, or pulled stuff off my bookcase), but it doesn't make me cross. Now, like you, my room is their space, but the bits I need to protect and I need out their way, are out their way. Over the years I've had all kinds of barriers, all kinds of heights of barriers and types of barriers to block off one thing or anything (one of which was a 5 ft tall barrier, part puppy pen panel, part material, to stop my pogoing lop from vaulting the 4.5ft barrier), I cover my carpet with carpet squares and they can do whatever they want, they are not allowed on my bed, or near it. That's my sanctuary.
I think, for me, it was important to accept them for who they were, and work with that, rather than changing them into who I wanted them to be.
I have six in my room now and wouldn't have it any other way (although probably will have to soon).
You do have my empathy, and I hope you manage to sort something out that works for all of you.