Honeylovesthumper
Young Bun
Hi there, sorry for the chunky post!
I have a couple of questions regarding bonding, but also behaviour. I have heard so many different opinions on bonding buns – so much I'm a bit lost and getting very stressed. I will also be bonding the buns outside now. 1 have a male eight year old dwarf lop named Thumper. His much loved companion, my baby Honey, recently died. He seemed perfectly fine with just my company enjoying our herby treats and grooming, but I thought it was time for him to have some proper bun company and adopted a young female dwarf lop named Poppet. She was neutered by the rescue centre and declared fit to come home with me, which she did last week.
While at the rescue they noticed how incredibly tame she seemed – in fact it was hopping up to a couple of strangers in a park that saved her. She loved her cuddles and her strokes. When I got her home, she seemed to immediately take a 'dislike' to me, as if I'd done something unforgivable – flicking her feet as she turns away, refusing treats, sometimes nipping/biting me, grooming with her back fully to me. I figured, ok shes been through a lot just let her be and get used to my presence without touching or reaching out to her/fiddling with her environment in her presence etc. But it continued. As I had to bond her with Thumper myself (which I had done with Honey and Thump) I figured putting her in that kind of situation, being the 'referee', is not really going to help her trust me. They were already in two parts of their large aviary style run, split down the middle so they can smell/see each other. But I figured I'd call back the rescue to see if they would bond them for me, but this would be way to stressful. They couldn't understand poppet’s temperament change, but thought perhaps it was just too much change for her so to just ignore her completely for a few days for her to get her bearings. Which I'm doing but it doesn't seem to have made a difference. I've come to terms that winning her trust is a very long term thing now, but I'd hate to think it was something I've done so wrong to have broken her sweet temperament. Any thoughts on this would be wonderful, thank you.
Anyway, its been a week of them living side by side, the rescue said its best not to leave it too much longer before I start the bonding process. Yesterday I took them up to the bathroom to see how things go. Thumper was so terrified because I brought him to the bathroom in the carrier, by himself (he hates being in the carrier but hates being picked up even more than that – hence moving him in the carrier) he was breathing so hard, shaking a little at first and hardly moving. Then he practically flung himself on me, which he does at the vets, as if saying 'save me!' and stuck near me pretty much the whole 20 minutes. There was no fighting and poppet spent the most part exploring the bathroom. There was one little attempt to groom thumper (nipping the fur a little – not the skin) but thumper was frozen. She put her head down many times for him to groom (which I know is trying to assert dominance) and thumper ignored this which is fine, but he just seemed frozen rather than making a choice not to groom. I'm thinking it might be better to make a space outside their run that thumper can just hop into for their next meeting? Hopefully he wont be as terrified as I'm really worried it will be a case of him suddenly exploding with fury. At least Poppet felt comfortable enough to flop and groom herself in Thumps presence. If anyone could give me any insights into how to help Poppet settle in, despite all the changes and stress associated with bonding (and given that she will still have all those post neutered hormones) and advice on how to help ease the bonding process for Thumper – you have no idea how grateful I would be! Thank you x
I have a couple of questions regarding bonding, but also behaviour. I have heard so many different opinions on bonding buns – so much I'm a bit lost and getting very stressed. I will also be bonding the buns outside now. 1 have a male eight year old dwarf lop named Thumper. His much loved companion, my baby Honey, recently died. He seemed perfectly fine with just my company enjoying our herby treats and grooming, but I thought it was time for him to have some proper bun company and adopted a young female dwarf lop named Poppet. She was neutered by the rescue centre and declared fit to come home with me, which she did last week.
While at the rescue they noticed how incredibly tame she seemed – in fact it was hopping up to a couple of strangers in a park that saved her. She loved her cuddles and her strokes. When I got her home, she seemed to immediately take a 'dislike' to me, as if I'd done something unforgivable – flicking her feet as she turns away, refusing treats, sometimes nipping/biting me, grooming with her back fully to me. I figured, ok shes been through a lot just let her be and get used to my presence without touching or reaching out to her/fiddling with her environment in her presence etc. But it continued. As I had to bond her with Thumper myself (which I had done with Honey and Thump) I figured putting her in that kind of situation, being the 'referee', is not really going to help her trust me. They were already in two parts of their large aviary style run, split down the middle so they can smell/see each other. But I figured I'd call back the rescue to see if they would bond them for me, but this would be way to stressful. They couldn't understand poppet’s temperament change, but thought perhaps it was just too much change for her so to just ignore her completely for a few days for her to get her bearings. Which I'm doing but it doesn't seem to have made a difference. I've come to terms that winning her trust is a very long term thing now, but I'd hate to think it was something I've done so wrong to have broken her sweet temperament. Any thoughts on this would be wonderful, thank you.
Anyway, its been a week of them living side by side, the rescue said its best not to leave it too much longer before I start the bonding process. Yesterday I took them up to the bathroom to see how things go. Thumper was so terrified because I brought him to the bathroom in the carrier, by himself (he hates being in the carrier but hates being picked up even more than that – hence moving him in the carrier) he was breathing so hard, shaking a little at first and hardly moving. Then he practically flung himself on me, which he does at the vets, as if saying 'save me!' and stuck near me pretty much the whole 20 minutes. There was no fighting and poppet spent the most part exploring the bathroom. There was one little attempt to groom thumper (nipping the fur a little – not the skin) but thumper was frozen. She put her head down many times for him to groom (which I know is trying to assert dominance) and thumper ignored this which is fine, but he just seemed frozen rather than making a choice not to groom. I'm thinking it might be better to make a space outside their run that thumper can just hop into for their next meeting? Hopefully he wont be as terrified as I'm really worried it will be a case of him suddenly exploding with fury. At least Poppet felt comfortable enough to flop and groom herself in Thumps presence. If anyone could give me any insights into how to help Poppet settle in, despite all the changes and stress associated with bonding (and given that she will still have all those post neutered hormones) and advice on how to help ease the bonding process for Thumper – you have no idea how grateful I would be! Thank you x
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