treacletrim
Young Bun
Hi all,
a bit of a melancholy post if you'll excuse me, but this is one of the few places I can 'speak' so candidly!
I'm really struggling with feelings of guilt/upset about getting another husbun for my girl Patsy after we lost our old Fred a couple of months ago. We lost Fred after a short illness, at the age of 7. Although I got him when he was already mature, the bond we had was incredible, my soul bun for sure. I am still in a mess about it and dare say I will be for a long time.
The problem I'm having now of course is dealing with feelings about the prospect of getting another husbun for my dear Patsy. Patsy is almost 3, and her and Fred were very close. Patsy came from a troubled background and had some issues. Fred's steady, confident character definitely helped her. She has become much more confident around people and thrived after they were bonded.
After losing Fred, Patsy was subdued for a couple of weeks but then really seemed to turn a corner and had been doing very well, showing cheeky behaviour and binkying again. However this past week she has gone back again, and in my heart I know she is not happy She is a house bun so has been getting lots of extra fuss and supervised time in the garden, but I know we can't replace what Fred gave her. She is a little more withdrawn, but when she does come out is scatty and jumpy, easily startled by things. She has also started shredding the newspaper in her litter tray and repetitively gnawing the plastic sides of the tray She is usually very clean and non-destructive.
I knew the day would come where I had to get another bunny, and need to put her needs first, as her welfare is more important than my grieving. I have already enquired at my local rescue about a boy. But I am really struggling to deal with my feelings on it. I feel like I don't want another bunny, and just want my Fred back I feel guilty like I'm replacing him. I know getting her a companion is the right thing to do, but I also feel like the new bunny deserves all my love and attention, which I don't feel I can give at the minute as I'm still so heartbroken and it feels too soon.
How have you guys dealt with this? I know you shouldn't humanise rabbits (but we do lol)....I Keep trying to tell myself Fred wouldn't want his Patsy to be lonely, and that every bunny deserves the chance of the life he had.......but is is very hard.
Any thoughts and reassurance would be appreciated x
a bit of a melancholy post if you'll excuse me, but this is one of the few places I can 'speak' so candidly!
I'm really struggling with feelings of guilt/upset about getting another husbun for my girl Patsy after we lost our old Fred a couple of months ago. We lost Fred after a short illness, at the age of 7. Although I got him when he was already mature, the bond we had was incredible, my soul bun for sure. I am still in a mess about it and dare say I will be for a long time.
The problem I'm having now of course is dealing with feelings about the prospect of getting another husbun for my dear Patsy. Patsy is almost 3, and her and Fred were very close. Patsy came from a troubled background and had some issues. Fred's steady, confident character definitely helped her. She has become much more confident around people and thrived after they were bonded.
After losing Fred, Patsy was subdued for a couple of weeks but then really seemed to turn a corner and had been doing very well, showing cheeky behaviour and binkying again. However this past week she has gone back again, and in my heart I know she is not happy She is a house bun so has been getting lots of extra fuss and supervised time in the garden, but I know we can't replace what Fred gave her. She is a little more withdrawn, but when she does come out is scatty and jumpy, easily startled by things. She has also started shredding the newspaper in her litter tray and repetitively gnawing the plastic sides of the tray She is usually very clean and non-destructive.
I knew the day would come where I had to get another bunny, and need to put her needs first, as her welfare is more important than my grieving. I have already enquired at my local rescue about a boy. But I am really struggling to deal with my feelings on it. I feel like I don't want another bunny, and just want my Fred back I feel guilty like I'm replacing him. I know getting her a companion is the right thing to do, but I also feel like the new bunny deserves all my love and attention, which I don't feel I can give at the minute as I'm still so heartbroken and it feels too soon.
How have you guys dealt with this? I know you shouldn't humanise rabbits (but we do lol)....I Keep trying to tell myself Fred wouldn't want his Patsy to be lonely, and that every bunny deserves the chance of the life he had.......but is is very hard.
Any thoughts and reassurance would be appreciated x