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I really know im not the only one...

hoppetylop

Mama Doe
...but im struggling with the loss of my bun Harry.:cry:I cant visit the forum very much at the moment as I tend to withdraw when im upset.
No point to this thread.Just wanted to post to people who understand.Veterinary mistakes were partly to blame.He trusted me and I let him down.I was his voice and made choices I shouldn't have made.We used the wrong specialist vets.I took him there again and again.Now they've just swept me and my boy under the carpet.My complaints fell on deaf ears.They got away with it.Shame Harry didn't.We were just stupid clients.Nothing to them.Why would they care.:cry:Monumental errors over and over again.
 
I'm so sorry for the loss of Harry. Don't blame yourself. We all have to make choices and sometimes we don't get the outcome we want or expect. You didn't let him down. You did what you thought was best at the time. Circumstances get beyond our control. You need time to come to terms with things. Please don't blame yourself. These things happen. Give yourself time. Just remember, we've all been there and blamed ourselves for something which truly was beyond our control. Try to find something else to concentrate on and try to get some relaxation. You will start to feel a little better over time. it will probably make you feel better to write everything down and get all your anger and frustration out. Hang on to it for a week or so and then read it back. You will probably see things in a different light.
 
...but im struggling with the loss of my bun Harry.:cry:I cant visit the forum very much at the moment as I tend to withdraw when im upset.
No point to this thread.Just wanted to post to people who understand.Veterinary mistakes were partly to blame.He trusted me and I let him down.I was his voice and made choices I shouldn't have made.We used the wrong specialist vets.I took him there again and again.Now they've just swept me and my boy under the carpet.My complaints fell on deaf ears.They got away with it.Shame Harry didn't.We were just stupid clients.Nothing to them.Why would they care.:cry:Monumental errors over and over again.

Oh C I am so sorry to read this :cry:

No one could have tried harder than you with Harry. We rely on vets because they are trained to help us and our rabbits. You can't blame yourself if they didn't do their job properly. You had to trust that you were getting the very best advice, as how else were you to proceed?

You cannot expect yourself to be all seeing and all knowing. None of us are, though we do expect ourselves to be.

Sending you loads of gentle ((( hugs ))) and hoping you'll come back to us when it feels right.
 
...but im struggling with the loss of my bun Harry.:cry:I cant visit the forum very much at the moment as I tend to withdraw when im upset.
No point to this thread.Just wanted to post to people who understand.Veterinary mistakes were partly to blame.He trusted me and I let him down.I was his voice and made choices I shouldn't have made.We used the wrong specialist vets.I took him there again and again.Now they've just swept me and my boy under the carpet.My complaints fell on deaf ears.They got away with it.Shame Harry didn't.We were just stupid clients.Nothing to them.Why would they care.:cry:Monumental errors over and over again.

I completely understand and I know for certain that you and Harry were badly let down by some 'Specialists' Vets. All any of us can do is our best when it comes to trying to help our Rabbits. We make decisions based on what we are being told by the 'Professionals', we cant always be expected to know that the 'Specialist' advice may not be quite as appropriate as it could be. You did all you could for Harry, you could not possibly have known that some of the 'advice' given by the 'Specialist' was maybe not the best course of action. But that is perhaps due to seeing it all in hindsight. I know of numerous events concerning some of my Rabbits where-by with the wisdom of hindsight I would have made different choices. But I did what I thought was right at the time, just as you did for Harry.

The grief of losing a Soul Rabbit can be all consuming and I actually dont think many people do truly understand. I wont lie and say time heals, as for me it does not and I'd be a hypocrite to say otherwise. But I hope that you can find ways of trying to learn to cope with the grief as best you can on a day to day basis. Or sometimes on a minute by minute basis.

You know that you can PM me at any time. I have no magic wand to make it all seem OK. But I think you know that I really do understand how hard things are for you and how very special your Harry was. He always will be ((((((((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))))))))) xx
 
I'm so sorry :cry: you shouldn't blame yourself, you did your very best for him, it was the vets that let you both down. I'm so sorry your complaint hasn't been listened to. Have you taken it to the RCVS too?

Thinking of you and sending hugs xx
 
It is, I think, natural to feel we've let a beloved pet down as grief engulfs us and we try to come to terms with our loss.

In truth, you did your best for him - it was (as Zoobec said) the vets who let you both down.

Lots of hugs for you. x
 
I'm so sorry for your loss.

I can only agree with absolutely everyone above. It's not something to blame yourself for, you have to make choices and sometimes they are hard ones and they are based off of what professionals tell us. You aren't accountable and everything you did was to benefit and give Harry every chance. Definitely though as cliche as it is, time is what is often needed
 
Thankyou all very much.I was experiencing one of those "waves"of grief you get when missing a loved one.

I know others have been through this sort of thing but it went on for us for SO long.The vet in question was on the TV the other day.I felt physically sick.For a long time he and his "specialist" team caused me so much stress.Without explaining properly(which I cant do)we were tied to his bumbling attempts at a "cure"which I was promised faithfully would happen.With all the errors on the way I should have known better.Thats what I blame myself for.

Normal service will be resumed soon:)I just need to deal with this and keep going.I am SO grateful to have my other animals who I adore.They will NEVER be taken to that dreadful place though.

Thankyou again everyone for your kind posts.xx
 
I don't blame you for not taking them there by the sounds of it. I'm quite astonished to hear that for all that he's on tv too :shock:
I'm sure you will find a much better vet soon and you can find help on RWAF for good listed vets :)
 
I don't blame you for not taking them there by the sounds of it. I'm quite astonished to hear that for all that he's on tv too :shock:
I'm sure you will find a much better vet soon and you can find help on RWAF for good listed vets :)

My rabbit savvy vet is wonderful.The referral to the "specialist" was done by an emergency vet.Im not blaming them though as they did it in good faith.

The "specialist"promised the earth and delivered nothing.They actually lied on occasions too.I cant prove anything though.I hope they've learnt something from the bad management of our referral but unfortunately they are so arrogant I doubt it.The way I was spoken to on the last appointment before Harry died was unbelievable.
I know nobody can help and I must come to terms with it but the whole thing has been so stressful.Its made the grief of Harrys passing so difficult to cope with.
He was my soul bunny and only 3 years old.
 
I'm so very sorry to read your posts. It's as everyone as already said, you did your best for Harry, and I'm sure he knew that, and knew that he was well loved. Sending you a big hug xxxxxx
 
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