hi all, I'm Linette.
I joined because this is a nice active forum and I need moral support.
I've kept rabbits for 40 years, and have dealt with all sorts of situations but life is always throwing something new at us eh?
We currently have a house rabbit, I've had him for over a year, a neutered male and he is awesome! My boyfriend and I love him and he loves us and we are one happy relaxed loving family.
He is SO affectionate that I hated the idea of him being home alone all day when we go for a weekend or I take a job so we decided to adopt another bunny.
As many of you know, bunny bonding is not always a smooth road BUT, I think a huge part of this is that WE haven't bonded with the new rabbit.
We traveled a long distance to the adoption center. We had prearranged to meet 4 females, and when we got there only two of the one's we'd arranged to meet were there, which I felt was a bit disingenuous of them seeing as we had made prior arrangements and this required an overnight stay for us, etc.
The first rabbit he met with, they both liked one another right off, but we tried two more who attacked him immediately. He was very stressed by the trip, then meeting new rabbits, then being twice attacked. They brought the first female back and they had a scuffle, and the woman at the adoption center immediately said that it wouldn't work between them.
I suggested that perhaps the smell of angry females and the fact that he had been twice attacked made them both nervous, but she said "NO".
My rabbit was tired and huddled in a corner by them. She said she wanted to try another female, that we had expressed no interest in. But the rabbit was a large breed (as is ours) and had been in foster care over a year, and she brought her in and put her with my rabbit, who didn't move. The female thumped in his face, he sat there, she groomed his head, he didn't move. The adoption center called it a match.
I should have said no. I truly truly should have. We all wanted female number one, but they refused to let us adopt her. I was worried about the last one and her thumping in the face. I was feeling that he hadn't had a chance to show his opinion since he was exhausted and traumatized, nor were we allowed to interact with the female and get to know her. Indeed, the adoption place wouldn't allow me to pick up any of the rabbits or spend time with them, even though they are going to be a family member for the next 10 years!
So...I decided that the important thing is for them to be friends and for another rabbit to have a forever home, but it's not working out. I don't know how much my own feelings are impacting it, but it's not working out. My boyfriend doesnt' care for the new rabbit. She is very territorial (which is fine but doesn't make for a happy living situation for us as a family), and she is always thumping at me and my rabbit. Not in a scared way, but in a bossy way.
My rabbit seems interested in making friends, but we are put off by the thumping in our faces, and they are not making headway as buddies. I have watched videos, read threads, read articles, etc etc...I do understand this IS a new home and new people for her, but she does not act scared, she acts bossy.
If we don't love her...If I don't feel like I want to have her in my home, or bond with her myself, and don't like her personality...am I awful to return her. We have a contract that we can return her within 30 days with a full refund. The refund isn't even the issue. We just don't care for her personality. I do feel she was rather pushed on us, and they won't consider letting us have the one we all felt most comfortable with.
But I feel guilty, as if I should do what some people have done and put a year into it if that is what it takes, and I feel I might well be willing if I liked the rabbit myself, but i don't even like her.
If she and he were getting on famously, or even showing significant improvement I'd be willing to keep at it, but I don't want the 30 days to go by and we finally decide it is JUST not working.
What also puts me off is that the people at the adoption center wouldn't even let me hold a rabbit that was supposed to become a family member for upwards of 10 years, nor let us have the rabbit we wanted. They wanted us to take this one as we have experience with large rabbits, and they feel they can more easily home the others. I know that adds to my own emotions on the situation, but my emotions are what they are and I think that it would be unwise to deny them or try to push past them.
I joined because this is a nice active forum and I need moral support.
I've kept rabbits for 40 years, and have dealt with all sorts of situations but life is always throwing something new at us eh?
We currently have a house rabbit, I've had him for over a year, a neutered male and he is awesome! My boyfriend and I love him and he loves us and we are one happy relaxed loving family.
He is SO affectionate that I hated the idea of him being home alone all day when we go for a weekend or I take a job so we decided to adopt another bunny.
As many of you know, bunny bonding is not always a smooth road BUT, I think a huge part of this is that WE haven't bonded with the new rabbit.
We traveled a long distance to the adoption center. We had prearranged to meet 4 females, and when we got there only two of the one's we'd arranged to meet were there, which I felt was a bit disingenuous of them seeing as we had made prior arrangements and this required an overnight stay for us, etc.
The first rabbit he met with, they both liked one another right off, but we tried two more who attacked him immediately. He was very stressed by the trip, then meeting new rabbits, then being twice attacked. They brought the first female back and they had a scuffle, and the woman at the adoption center immediately said that it wouldn't work between them.
I suggested that perhaps the smell of angry females and the fact that he had been twice attacked made them both nervous, but she said "NO".
My rabbit was tired and huddled in a corner by them. She said she wanted to try another female, that we had expressed no interest in. But the rabbit was a large breed (as is ours) and had been in foster care over a year, and she brought her in and put her with my rabbit, who didn't move. The female thumped in his face, he sat there, she groomed his head, he didn't move. The adoption center called it a match.
I should have said no. I truly truly should have. We all wanted female number one, but they refused to let us adopt her. I was worried about the last one and her thumping in the face. I was feeling that he hadn't had a chance to show his opinion since he was exhausted and traumatized, nor were we allowed to interact with the female and get to know her. Indeed, the adoption place wouldn't allow me to pick up any of the rabbits or spend time with them, even though they are going to be a family member for the next 10 years!
So...I decided that the important thing is for them to be friends and for another rabbit to have a forever home, but it's not working out. I don't know how much my own feelings are impacting it, but it's not working out. My boyfriend doesnt' care for the new rabbit. She is very territorial (which is fine but doesn't make for a happy living situation for us as a family), and she is always thumping at me and my rabbit. Not in a scared way, but in a bossy way.
My rabbit seems interested in making friends, but we are put off by the thumping in our faces, and they are not making headway as buddies. I have watched videos, read threads, read articles, etc etc...I do understand this IS a new home and new people for her, but she does not act scared, she acts bossy.
If we don't love her...If I don't feel like I want to have her in my home, or bond with her myself, and don't like her personality...am I awful to return her. We have a contract that we can return her within 30 days with a full refund. The refund isn't even the issue. We just don't care for her personality. I do feel she was rather pushed on us, and they won't consider letting us have the one we all felt most comfortable with.
But I feel guilty, as if I should do what some people have done and put a year into it if that is what it takes, and I feel I might well be willing if I liked the rabbit myself, but i don't even like her.
If she and he were getting on famously, or even showing significant improvement I'd be willing to keep at it, but I don't want the 30 days to go by and we finally decide it is JUST not working.
What also puts me off is that the people at the adoption center wouldn't even let me hold a rabbit that was supposed to become a family member for upwards of 10 years, nor let us have the rabbit we wanted. They wanted us to take this one as we have experience with large rabbits, and they feel they can more easily home the others. I know that adds to my own emotions on the situation, but my emotions are what they are and I think that it would be unwise to deny them or try to push past them.