thanks for the advice so far
The male got neutered on Wednesday, and was really unphased by the operation. We kept him in a puppy pen in our unheated conservatory overnight, and let his sister in to run around for a bout in the evening - separate but able to see him. She'd been moping in her hutch all day, and spend most of her time indoors trying to find a way in to him - jumping on the pen, running round, sniffing it.
Every night since, we've let them have about 3 hours of supervised time together. He was a bit weird on the first night (Thursday) as we think he was trying to become dominant bunny. Every time he tried to hump her, she ran off, or converted it into grooming.
Fri/Sat/Sun, he's maybe tried to sniff her tail once or twice, but they've pretty much been eating together, grooming each other, flopping together, hopping around. I kinda of feel that if he tried anything, he wouldn't get very far, as she's the dominant one and bigger than him. Their bond is really strong, but it's really not sexy.
She feels too young to be neutered. He's much more resilient to stuff but i'd rather wait until she was bigger.
It sounds like she's pretty young to get pregnant, although it's obviously possible.
It also sounds like the 6-8 weeks thing is as much to deal with hormonal bunnies who aren't already bonded and increase the chances of a successful bond, as to make absolutely certain there's no risk of any pregnancy.
Here
http://forums.rabbitrehome.org.uk/s...Fertile-After-Neuter&highlight=fertile+neuter
says that "a 1920s experiment showed that sperm remained viable for several weeks after neutering when the technique they were using involved tying off the tubes rather than removing the testicles. This means that the testosterone is still present, and could help to keep the sperm viable for longer.
In castration now, they totally remove the testicles so the testosterone level in the rabbit drops off a lot more quickly. So the only sperm remaining would be those in the tubes. Personally I am sceptical that this remaining sperm could live for longer than a fortnight at most, but obviously not wanting to create unnecessary babies we seem to err on the side of caution and recommend several weeks before putting a newly castrated male with an unspayed female."
http://forums.rabbitrehome.org.uk/s...ing-and-help-please!&highlight=fertile+neuter
Here that the hormones take 6-8 weeks to subside, but sperm only viable for about 2
And then quite a few
http://forums.rabbitrehome.org.uk/s...ow-long-after-neuter&highlight=fertile+neuter
http://forums.rabbitrehome.org.uk/s...ale-rabbit-get-pregnant/page2&highlight=sperm
say that "In humans it's 3-5 days, a week tops" that the live sperm will survive, and that in the past, vets recommended 2 weeks, then 3 weeks etc and that (in 2009) reduces were rebounding after 2-3 weeks...
So.. I don't know. I guess it kinda depends on the bunnies, and the level of risk one wishes to take - as apparently he could still make her pregnant 9 or more weeks in dependent on some posts. So even if we did keep them apart for 6 weeks there's still a chance she could end up pregnant. But they really don't seems very humpy or hormonal. So half of me if aligned with tonibun and thinking it would probably be ok 'cos they're just best friends and it's mean to keep them apart, and the other half is thinking it would be totally wrong to give my doe the risk of underage pregnancy 'cos she's such a sweet girl
I'm meeting my rabbit sitter tomorrow who has lots of bunnies and experience, and taking him for his post-op vet check next saturday, so will talk to the bunny sitter and the vet and see what they advise, and any more opinions/advice also encouraged.
Until then, I'll keep them separate except at supervised play time, and keep swapping hutches so they still smell of each other and neither gets the bigger hutch all the time and keep agonising anxiously over whether to keep them sad and separate, or take the risk and rebound them in a couple of weeks
this should be so much more straightforward than i'm making it!!!
thanks everyone for advice so far