Hard to Deal With That My Bun Died In Pain

My bun Rosie has been through a lot after having a dental meant tooth removal due to absess and then a blockage which took 9 days of intensive care in the vets and she is now thriving.

This has been a tough journey as i left my vet who carried out the dental as he prescribed antibiotics orally which when I posted here jacks jane thankfully told me not to give them to her as basically they would have killed her. I had no reason to doubt my vet until this so after this I took my bun to a rabbit specialist nearly 2 hrs away but so worth it.

It is only after seeing the treatment and pain relief given to rosie that I realise my poor lance suffered and died in pain. My vet convinced me at the time there was nothing more we could do to help him except continue with syringe feeds and metacolpramid. As he had operated on lance 2 months before for a blockage and saved him then I had no reason to doubt him. I had to ask if I could give him some metacam but I now know it wasn't enough. In lances final hours he was bright enough so I never thought he would leave so quick and I was trying to give him a chance. I honestly didn't believe he was at the putting to sleep stage. His passing was very distressing and I cant forgive myself now I know that he was definitely in pain. I feel the vets where rosie was could have saved him. It breaks my heart to know I caused him to suffer and am finding it hard to deal with. I feel guilty that rosie is getting treatment that he should have got also.

I know exactly how you feel. I will always blame myself for mango dying of bloat this summer-I should have got him to the vet sooner. I also will never know if he might have survived had the vet taken a different course of action. But you just can't keep beating yourself up and playing it over in your mind as nothing can bring them back. All you can do is learn in case you're faced with the same situation again. And I think it's really important to remember the weeks, months and years that they had a happy life, and to try not to focus on the short time at the end when they were in pain.

the feelings of guilt are sometimes so overwhelming. but i think we are the type of people who would find a way to blame ourselves whatever had happened. someone on here said to me that i did what i could at the time, with the info i had, and that is all i could have done. that helped me alot and i hope it helps you, although i know the feelings of guilt don't really go away. i have so much guilt over things and it does eat away at you, so massive hugs x

I'm so sorry, but I kind of know what you're going through. I had a two month old buck, and he had broken his leg, well fractured it very badly. After realising that metacam wasn't enough, and that he was far too weak for any operation, we got back from putting him down an hour ago. Your not the only one in pain, but I am trying to be optimistic because in the new year we will probably get a doe for my other buck (12 weeks) Winston. Sending you positive vibes and hugs.

Thanks everyone for ur kind words they do help. Its sad u all have been where I have been also. I just wish out of everything that vets got the pain relief thing right from the start at least if they didnt pull through then the pain issue wouldn't pray so much on my mind. But bicuitandmatt I agree I would probably still have found something to beat myself up over. I remember reading ur post on poor mango.

Winston Sebastian I am soo sorry for ur wee bun. How very very sad. I feel for u I really do but like I said earlier if only vets could do the pain relief right.

I have learnt so much in the past few months thats true and I know my other buns will all go to this other vet . They have already been for their health check.

Its tough when u love them so much. Thanks again for ur kind words and i know people here understand.

I am so sorry that you lost Lance and in such circumstances

I lost my soul bunny, Dexter, to EC and he fought through one attack when the vet thought he wouldn't and then had to be PTS by the emergency vet on the second attack. Afterwards I kept playing it over and over in my mind, wondering should I have done something differently, beating myself up for waiting too long, for not trusting my instincts when he deteriorated again, for going out the day before so he was alone all day, thinking it could have made a difference. I still hate myself that I wasn't there when the vet did it, I let them take him from the room to do it and then bring him back afterwards, I wasn't there holding him when he passed, he was alone and frightened.

Sorry, two years on, it hasn't got any easier thinking like that. I think it was me who told Biscandmatt that phrase, it sounds very much like something I say and I try and hold onto that myself. I also try and think that I got him through the first attack when the vets wanted to give up and he had three more months with me, where he was happy and adored and spoilt rotten. It's not easy losing a beloved pet, we just have to try and think of the good times and not the bad.

I'm so sorry Nickybunny, you shouldn't blame yourself though because after all we pay vets good money, put our trust in them and expect them to know best, unfortunately they don't always but that is not our fault. Looking at it positively, at least you now have a rabbit savvy vet for Rosie, we have a lot to thank RU for bringing the need for Rabbit Savvy vets to our attention. Thank goodness there are some decent vets around!

Winston Sebastian I'm so sorry about your bunny

It's not how they died, it's how they lived

I'm sorry to hear of your losses, both of you. We do rely on decent vets advice but again, they dont always get it right...

Love to you bith
Fee x

It is really hard to look back and think they might have suffered before leaving us. We can only work with the knowledge that we have, our own feelings/instincts and the expertise of our vets. We trust their advice and knowledge. You couldn't have known any more at the time and did all you could then. Please don't give yourself a hard time, try to remember all the happy times.

Hugs.

Schtoffen said:

It's not how they died, it's how they lived

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What an awesome statement thank you for that. I think it will help a lot of people x

ripminnie said:

What an awesome statement thank you for that. I think it will help a lot of people x

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I wish the last thing Big had seen had been me or Little but it was a police dog We can't control everything, we can only give them the very best care possible.

Ripmini

Thanks for ur post and everyone else too. I still just miss him every day and I wear a neck lace with a little heart vial with his fur inside so he is always close to my heart. I find it helps at difficult times.