biscandmatt1
Wise Old Thumper
sigh..
Last edited:
(((((HUGS)))))
Would it help to post some photos of him for us to look at? X
I hope it's not too tough today
i might do later on. i don't think i can look at them right now.
it's all such a mess. i'm grieving, bisc was doing ok but now he suddenly doesn't seem right. i don't know what to do with regards to him having a friend, or making things worse. to be honest, i couldn't even pay an adoption fee right now. haven't paid the vets still for matt. totally out of money so panicking now about that. i hadn't even made much progress moving forward after losing ches piggy in feb, and now matts gone aswell. it's just all a mess.
I'm in much the same situation myself at the moment. Having lost Bridie pig in August and then Estelle last week, I fully understand how you must be feeling.
You are more than welcome to give me a ring if it would help to talk to an old fogey like me. Just pm me for details if you wish.
Thinking of you at this sad and distressing time.
Di. xx
Meant to say that I would be willing to lend you some money if it meant that you could adopt a new friend for bisc. Have a think.
*hugs*
Ride out the wave of grief as best as you can. It doesn't matter if you go under a few times as long as you pull yourself out enough to breathe. It will break on the shore eventually. xxx
Sending hugs. With grief there are days that are not too bad and days it is overwhelming, in time the pain isn't as bad.
I hope Bisc is alright and the tests come back clear. I know its never easy when money is tight.
it's my own fault. i didn't even know about insurance when i got them and then they became ill with various things so young and the insurance then wouldn't have covered any of that again. at least that is what i was told but now i've read that it can cover that but the cost just goes up every year or something? i don't know. too late now anyway. luckily the vet is so good with letting us pay when we have it. i don't like to take the mick with doing that though.
anyway, should have bisc's test results back on monday so fingers crossed they don't show up anything bad. if they don't then i would think he is grieving again after doing much better which would be so sad. then i worry the bonding with a new friend would cause stress and make his snuffles worse. then i worry i will get it all wrong.
some days so seem so overwhelming. almost like it hits you again and the shock comes back.
x
Unfortunately even when you do have insurance the excess etc is so high. Everytime Mr B has a dental the excess is about £95.00 now. :roll: We have run out of it anyway. I never had the chinchillas insured then Babydarling got ill, then it was too late as two of them were to old to insure. You can go years without problems then it all comes at once.
Hope its good news on Monday. I have no idea if bonding would make snuffles worse or not. Most bonds go quite smoothly, its the few that don't that tend to be on RU. Have you thought about someone else doing it for you to take the stress away.
You are not weird you have a condition.
Could your OH do it instead ? or could a rescue come to your home and talk to your OH ?
What you could do is see if there is a bunny you like at a rescue online, talk to the rescue on the phone and see what they suggest. Perhaps once you get the bunny your OH could take them somewhere local for bonding (not sure what part of the country you are in), so if you are not happy with them being away your OH can pick them up quickly.
I see you are in Manchester. That isn't far from BARC in Barnsley, maybe you could have a word with Ange and tell her your fears, I am sure she will be very understanding and you could make the arrangements with your OH. I have a BARC bunny and didn't need a home visit. Bandit came to me through a bun run and I bonded them the next day. :shock:
You're not wierd at all, I can empathise to some extent as I recognised some of myself there, but not quite as bad. Sorry - didn't say that to make you feel worse, was meant to be nice & sympathetic! If you ever want to pm me, you can do. I can't promise to be of any help but I can promise to be a sympathetic listener. I'm also in Sheffield so not a million miles away from you if you did ever want to meet, but no pressure. I think I'm not good looking either unless I spend literally an entire day on hair, makeup, ball gown n have had months to starve myself into losing weight. And never take a pic of me without said notice. So we could be two self appearance haters together or put bags over our heads so we don't see each other :lol: sorry, I'm trying to be funny here and cheer you up, hope I've not made you more upset :s going now before I put my foot in it some more.....
I am so sorry. Sending lots of hugs for you.