Schtoffen
Mama Doe
Watch out guys, there's a moan coming!
I think I should give Teddy (now known in our house as Fat Bun - I know, he'll get a complex poor love) back to the RSPCA.
Because of all the rubbish that's happened over the past couple of months I've just reached a total mental block with the bonding (I'm also short on time, I'm always dashing across the country to visit my poor mum who starts chemo in a few weeks which will go on for 18 weeks).
I'm totally stuck. My nerves are in SHATTERS at the moment, everything seems to induce a panic attack.
The buns are currently separated when they're alone and can see each-other when we're home through two sets of bars (they fight through the bars if only one set).
We still switch them over every day but if they are down to one set of bars like when I'm feeding or cleaning out, I pick up Teddy and whisk him away before they've even had the chance to smell one another - I know I shouldn't do this if they're ever going to be friends but I'm just so scared of Little getting hurt. The last time I let them smell each other was two weeks ago and Little got a really bad bite on her mouth. I couldn't see any blood but it seemed to hurt her a lot.
I know I'm just being a coward, and that my last bond started this badly but we got there in the end.
The trouble is, last time around Big wanted to eat Little, but if he bit her or she was frightened she ran away and hid. Now if she's frightened she fights. I don't know how aggressive normal bun fighting is but she seems to fight like a wildcat, tumbling over and over, ripping out so much fur in mere seconds.
I know this sounds so selfish but I don't know if I'm up to this. My OH has tried the 'putting them in a bucket' trick, and the don't fight there (well they can't), but I can't bring myself to go to the next stage.
God I sound a right drip.
What do people think I should do, keep on or give him back? I'm completely head over heels in love with him but I don't want him to be miserable.
(Please, don't tell me off anyone, I'm having a really rotten time at the moment )
I think I should give Teddy (now known in our house as Fat Bun - I know, he'll get a complex poor love) back to the RSPCA.
Because of all the rubbish that's happened over the past couple of months I've just reached a total mental block with the bonding (I'm also short on time, I'm always dashing across the country to visit my poor mum who starts chemo in a few weeks which will go on for 18 weeks).
I'm totally stuck. My nerves are in SHATTERS at the moment, everything seems to induce a panic attack.
The buns are currently separated when they're alone and can see each-other when we're home through two sets of bars (they fight through the bars if only one set).
We still switch them over every day but if they are down to one set of bars like when I'm feeding or cleaning out, I pick up Teddy and whisk him away before they've even had the chance to smell one another - I know I shouldn't do this if they're ever going to be friends but I'm just so scared of Little getting hurt. The last time I let them smell each other was two weeks ago and Little got a really bad bite on her mouth. I couldn't see any blood but it seemed to hurt her a lot.
I know I'm just being a coward, and that my last bond started this badly but we got there in the end.
The trouble is, last time around Big wanted to eat Little, but if he bit her or she was frightened she ran away and hid. Now if she's frightened she fights. I don't know how aggressive normal bun fighting is but she seems to fight like a wildcat, tumbling over and over, ripping out so much fur in mere seconds.
I know this sounds so selfish but I don't know if I'm up to this. My OH has tried the 'putting them in a bucket' trick, and the don't fight there (well they can't), but I can't bring myself to go to the next stage.
God I sound a right drip.
What do people think I should do, keep on or give him back? I'm completely head over heels in love with him but I don't want him to be miserable.
(Please, don't tell me off anyone, I'm having a really rotten time at the moment )