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rachylou
22-04-2013, 10:52 PM
Those of you who I am talking about will know what I mean, those who feel a very deep connecion, a love so strong it takes your breath away and you know you woulddo anything for them.
Do you ever worry they dont know how much you love them?

ripminnie
22-04-2013, 11:20 PM
Those of you who I am talking about will know what I mean, those who feel a very deep connecion, a love so strong it takes your breath away and you know you woulddo anything for them.
Do you ever worry they dont know how much you love them?

I know what you mean, I had that with Honey :cry: I told her I loved her about 20 times a day, I think she knew :love: I think she loved me back as she used to give me lots of bunny kisses on my nose :love: but I did worry so much when I'd left her at the vets, that she might feel that I didn't love her any more :cry: I wish I could've been with her x

little-laura
22-04-2013, 11:41 PM
no because if you have a special bond it works both ways and you KNOW you love each other

rachylou
22-04-2013, 11:42 PM
I know what you mean, I had that with Honey :cry: I told her I loved her about 20 times a day, I think she knew :love: I think she loved me back as she used to give me lots of bunny kisses on my nose :love: but I did worry so much when I'd left her at the vets, that she might feel that I didn't love her any more :cry: I wish I could've been with her x

:cry: aww hun, I am sure she knew! (hugs)
I have this with Jims and it scares me :cry: I tell him I love him every chance I get, I think he knows as when we snuggle and I give him kisses he grindes after each one! :love:

Kermit
23-04-2013, 07:33 AM
I know in my heart that my Kermit and my Inca (I had them both at separate times) both knew how much I loved them, they were both sick bunnies and they needed extra special care from me and they would just let me do anything to them.

The only things that go through my mind is:

- When Kermit passed I was not with him, OH was there but I was away for the weekend....does he think I left him
- When Inca passed it was me that got her PTS cos she was so ill, I held her in my arms as she had it done....does she understand why?

rachylou
23-04-2013, 11:53 AM
I know in my heart that my Kermit and my Inca (I had them both at separate times) both knew how much I loved them, they were both sick bunnies and they needed extra special care from me and they would just let me do anything to them.

The only things that go through my mind is:

- When Kermit passed I was not with him, OH was there but I was away for the weekend....does he think I left him
- When Inca passed it was me that got her PTS cos she was so ill, I held her in my arms as she had it done....does she understand why?

:cry: thats so sad! but I know I would think the same thing!
I am sure they both knew although I know its hard to believe it.

RogerRabbit999
23-04-2013, 12:04 PM
It never occurred to me to be honest. Roger constantly looked for me as I did him. When I got home from work he would be who I rushed to first, and his little face and eyes would light up, as I scoped him up and then often rushed to the loo :shock: At night when I went to brush my teeth, he would wait outside the bathroom to be taken to his night bed in my room, or if he was poorly, he would sleep on my bed. When he needed to pee he would fidget, and I would put him in the litter tray, wait for him and then put him back to bed. He was always comforted by things that smelt of me, and whenever he was his poorliest, he would always settle and sleep well on my pillow. At meal times Roger would sit up with me, and I would cut my food up beforehand, so that I could eat with one hand and hold him with the other, and he always liked trying bits of my dinner as well. In the evening he loved 'knobbly bobbly' ice lollies, and we would share one, each having our own side, but Roger often ate mine as well. When I kissed him and fussed him, for every kiss I gave him, he would give me several back. Roger was a severely disabled bunny, paralysed down his right side. He had over the 7yrs I had him, various ways he liked to sleep on me, the last being stretched out on my arm that was resting on the arm rest of the settee, and he liked it even better when I would then feed him strawberries as he lay there. On the night I lost Roger (Sept 13th last year, at 2102hrs) which was a Thursday, he had an appointment at 1600hrs, and the clinic closed at 1900hrs, but Roger didn't leave until much later. My vet was amazing and gave me loads of time to spend with Roger, in his office, and one of the nurses made me cups of tea, and everyone was really kind and looked after us. Everyone knew how hard this would be for me, even though the last 3 yrs. had been spent taking every day a day at a time, and just treasuring what time I had with Roger. I can never thank my vet enough, he worked tirelessly for Roger, and even came in when he was on holiday, if Roger needed seeing. Simon was very attached to Roger, and god only knows how on 3 previous occasions he managed to save Roger when I know others wouldn't have been able too, and the odds were always so heavily stacked against Roger. He was finally beat by a brain tumour, but he left, warm and cuddled in my arms, with just Simon present which was how I had always wanted it, and when the injection was halfway administered, amazingly, somehow Roger found the strength to lift his little head and give me his final bunny kisses, which I knew meant 'Thank you for letting me go, I love you so much and Goodbye', and then his head went back and he was gone, and my heart shattered and will never be whole again. I ordered a big box of hand made chocolates to be delivered to the surgery for everyone, because I know Simon is a chocolate monster just like Roger was, and I just felt I really wanted to do something to thank everyone especially Simon and his wife Kim, who he runs the practise with, for all the kindness, care and support they gave me over the years.

This year on the first anniversary, it is going to be a very hard time for me, as the days still are, and the world just seems very bleak without Roger in it. I'm going to have another box of chocolates delivered to my vets, with a note asking them to all eat chocolate on Roger's anniversary, and if they would spare him a thought, but I know Simon still thinks about Roger and he often still mentions funny things that he used to do, and it means a lot to me that he really knew him so well, and remembers him. I'm planning a 'chocolate party' in Roger's memory, as I am going to need people about me on that night, and a candle will be lit for my 'special little man', and I'm sure many tears will flow, because Roger touched so many people's hearts.

His property is still as it was and unwashed, and I still have some of his fur and his grubby sock, under my pillow when I sleep at night. I don't have my partners photo next to my bed, I have Roger's face in a heart-filled frame, and I have nearly saved enough for a gold rabbit pendant, that will contain some of his ashes, and then he really will always be close to me. His ashes are in the cabinet next to my bed, but I rarely open the drawer, because just the sight of them makes me break down. I know Roger visits, and I still talk to him daily. Sometimes, I suddenly get a sense of overwhelming happiness which is pretty rare for me these days without Roger, and often at the time I have been busy and not even actively thinking about him, but for the happiness I feel, I instantly know Roger is here, and I sit down and start chatting away to him, and I feel better for a little while. On one occasion I was brushing my teeth, and the door was open, and a movement caught my eye, and I turned and looked and swear to god, can even see it in my head now, a white rabbit ran across the doorway, which was strange, because as you can see from my signature, Dipsy is black, and Pippa is brown and white, but it was bigger than Pippa, and a real fluff ball and Persil white bunny, so can only actually have been Roger :love: :love: :love:.

On a final note, as the tears are flowing now, yes, they do most definitely know. This what a friend emailed me, and it is really true and has happened.

You did good Julie. You wait, soon, on a quiet day or when you least expect it, or when you think of him in passing whilst you Hoover, don't be surprised if you catch a glimpse of him hoping around a corner or hiding by his pillow. Roger will stop by to let you know he is fine and to check on you. Bonds like the one you have with Roger transend the physical barriers of death. Don't search him out, he will stay in the corner of your view, and you will know he is there. You'll see.

Mrs. Bunnykins
23-04-2013, 01:35 PM
Estelle and I have a very special and understanding bond. She is a very 'deep' rabbit and does has many issues, but over the past four years we have slowly and steadily come to understand and love each other more and more. xxxx

Pebblesetc
23-04-2013, 01:44 PM
Buckley knows how much I love him. You can just tell when they know how loved and special they are.

Jaysmonkey
23-04-2013, 02:02 PM
No, Lola knew, I couldn't have loved her anymore, she was my world. She knew that and she knew I was her mummy. :love::love:

Oompa-Loompa
23-04-2013, 02:09 PM
Boris knew I loved him. And so does Bella, even if our bond isn't quite as strong.

chloeturner
23-04-2013, 03:58 PM
I hope Misty knew how much I loved her and how much I wish I was there in her final moments, and that I would've done anything to save her. There will always be that "first bunny" bond there that no other rabbit will ever have with me. I never realised how lucky I was to have a rabbit that would be fine with being picked up and handled, stayed very still bum on knee while I gave her any meds she needed. I don't even think I realised how much I loved her until she wasn't there to love.

Although Lola was mistreated, she settled in here so well, like she knew she'd be looked after here. I've had my first proper experiences with bunny licks, something Misty only did twice. Proper cuddles, where she'll sit on my knee "purring" at me while im stroking her.

But although this thread is for rabbits, I'll never have a bond with any animal like I have with my dog. I love her so much, I'd give anything to have her with me forever in good health. When she dies I'll have her cremated, and when I die I want that dogs ashes with mine. She's my soul-animal :love::love:

Cari
23-04-2013, 04:06 PM
Stephen is my boy. I sometimes feel a bit guilty as I know Stephen is my soul bunny, and he loves me as I love him, and I don't have as much affection for Ellie as I do Stephen.

I'm mean. I know I am, but Stephen is my special boy and I adore him. He snuggles and licks me, he hops onto my lap and circles me and binkies when I go into their room. I talk to him and cuddle him much more than Ellie, mostly because she hates cuddles!

rachylou
23-04-2013, 05:28 PM
It never occurred to me to be honest. Roger constantly looked for me as I did him. When I got home from work he would be who I rushed to first, and his little face and eyes would light up, as I scoped him up and then often rushed to the loo :shock: At night when I went to brush my teeth, he would wait outside the bathroom to be taken to his night bed in my room, or if he was poorly, he would sleep on my bed. When he needed to pee he would fidget, and I would put him in the litter tray, wait for him and then put him back to bed. He was always comforted by things that smelt of me, and whenever he was his poorliest, he would always settle and sleep well on my pillow. At meal times Roger would sit up with me, and I would cut my food up beforehand, so that I could eat with one hand and hold him with the other, and he always liked trying bits of my dinner as well. In the evening he loved 'knobbly bobbly' ice lollies, and we would share one, each having our own side, but Roger often ate mine as well. When I kissed him and fussed him, for every kiss I gave him, he would give me several back. Roger was a severely disablded bunny, paralysed down his right side. He had over the 7yrs I had him, various ways he liked to sleep on me, the last being stretched out on my arm that was resting on the arm rest of the settee, and he liked it even better when I would then feed him strawberries as he lay there. On the night I lost Roger (Sept 13th last year, at 2102hrs) which was a Thursday, he had an appointment at 1600hrs, and the clinic closed at 1900hrs, but Roger didn't leave until much later. My vet was amazing and gave me loads of time to spend with Roger, in his office, and one of the nurses made me cups of tea, and everyone was really kind and looked after us. Everyone knew how hard this would be for me, even though the last 3 yrs. had been spent taking every day a day at a time, and just treasuring what time I had with Roger. I can never thank my vet enough, he worked tirelessly for Roger, and even came in when he was on holiday, if Roger needed seeing. Simon was very attached to Roger, and god only knows how on 3 previous occasions he managed to save Roger when I know others wouldn't have been able too, and the odds were always so heavily stacked against Roger. He was finally beat by a brain tumour, but he left, warm and cuddled in my arms, with just Simon present which was how I had always wanted it, and when the injection was halfway administered, amazingly, somehow Roger found the strength to lift his little head and give me his final bunny kisses, which I knew meant 'Thank you for letting me go, I love you so much and Goodbye', and then his head went back and he was gone, and my heart shattered and will never be whole again. I ordered a big box of hand made chocolates to be delivered to the surgery for everyone, because I know Simon is a chocolate monster just like Roger was, and I just felt I really wanted to do something to thank everyone especially Simon and his wife Kim, who he runs the practise with, for all the kindness, care and support they gave me over the years.

This year on the first anniversary, it is going to be a very hard time for me, as the days still are, and the world just seems very bleak without Roger in it. I'm going to have another box of chocolates delivered to my vets, with a note asking them to all eat chocolate on Roger's anniversary, and if they would spare him a thought, but I know Simon still thinks about Roger and he often still mentions funny things that he used to do, and it means a lot to me that he really knew him so well, and remembers him. I'm planning a 'chocolate party' in Roger's memory, as I am going to need people about me on that night, and a candle will be lit for my 'special little man', and I'm sure many tears will flow, because Roger touched so many people's hearts.

His property is still as it was and unwashed, and I still have some of his fur and his grubby sock, under my pillow when I sleep at night. I don't have my partners photo next to my bed, I have Roger's face in a heart-filled frame, and I have nearly saved enough for a gold rabbit pendant, that will contain some of his ashes, and then he really will always be close to me. His ashes are in the cabinet next to my bed, but I rarely open the drawer, because just the sight of them makes me break down. I know Roger visits, and I still talk to him daily. Sometimes, I suddenly get a sense of overwhelming happiness which is pretty rare for me these days without Roger, and often at the time I have been busy and not even actively thinking about him, but for the happiness I feel, I instantly know Roger is here, and I sit down and start chatting away to him, and I feel better for a little while. On one occasion I was brushing my teeth, and the door was open, and a movement caught my eye, and I turned and looked and swear to god, can even see it in my head now, a white rabbit ran across the doorway, which was strange, because as you can see from my signature, Dipsy is black, and Pippa is brown and white, but it was bigger than Pippa, and a real fluff ball and Persil white bunny, so can only actually have been Roger :love: :love: :love:.

On a final note, as the tears are flowing now, yes, they do most definitely know. This what a friend emailed me, and it is really true and has happened.

You did good Julie. You wait, soon, on a quiet day or when you least expect it, or when you think of him in passing whilst you Hoover, don't be surprised if you catch a glimpse of him hoping around a corner or hiding by his pillow. Roger will stop by to let you know he is fine and to check on you. Bonds like the one you have with Roger transend the physical barriers of death. Don't search him out, he will stay in the corner of your view, and you will know he is there. You'll see.

Holy poo! :cry: that is the most wonderful and sad story!
Its so nice that you have such great memories and that he knew how loved he was and still is! :love:

Jims gives me 'the look' too :love:

Snowberry
23-04-2013, 05:39 PM
I genuinely don't think my buns have a foggiest about what goes on!

They aren't the brightest bunnies and the only purpose I have is food bringer. They show no interest in humans other than to beg for food!

rachylou
23-04-2013, 06:03 PM
I genuinely don't think my buns have a foggiest about what goes on!

They aren't the brightest bunnies and the only purpose I have is food bringer. They show no interest in humans other than to beg for food!

Aww thats really sad :cry:

Snowberry
23-04-2013, 06:14 PM
Aww thats really sad :cry:

I don't find it sad. I have always treated my bunnies as rabbits not children and I enjoy their company whilst they don't mine!

I would like to have a snuggle bun but none of mine like cuddles at all!

batmobile
24-04-2013, 12:00 AM
I don't find it sad. I have always treated my bunnies as rabbits not children and I enjoy their company whilst they don't mine!

I would like to have a snuggle bun but none of mine like cuddles at all!

This.

I do have a few who don't mind being cuddled but in the end, I'm afraid I see bunnies as bunnies... I keep them with their own kind because they would prefer it that way. I believe far too much emotion is transferred onto pets - apart from dogs who were domesticated to be human companions. I care about my rabbits and there have been some with whom I connected better than others but I don't believe they care one jot about me, just the food I bring and the lifestyle I provide. And I am happy about things being this way. To lose a dog is the single most painful thing I have experienced apart from a human. If I felt like that about the rabbits then I would not have them or so many. this does not mean that I don't fight for them when they are ill or don't cry when they pass away, however, I have them knowing I am giving them the best life possible. It's all for them. what I get out of it is knowing that one animal had a better life than it started with. I love my OH wholly and completely. He is my soul mate. My dogs love me, I love them as much as you can love anything that is that loyal without being an emotional and intellectual equal to a human. I care about the rabbits - some more than others because of the way they behaved around me or the progress we made in our lives together, but as long as they can be rabbits together, I don't believe we feel anything much stronger than an understanding of their needs and my desire to fulfill them.

abi2013
24-04-2013, 12:06 AM
This.

I do have a few who don't mind being cuddled but in the end, I'm afraid I see bunnies as bunnies... I keep them with their own kind because they would prefer it that way. I believe far too much emotion is transferred onto pets - apart from dogs who were domesticated to be human companions. I care about my rabbits and there have been some with whom I connected better than others but I don't believe they care one jot about me, just the food I bring and the lifestyle I provide. And I am happy about things being this way. To lose a dog is the single most painful thing I have experienced apart from a human. If I felt like that about the rabbits then I would not have them or so many. this does not mean that I don't fight for them when they are ill or don't cry when they pass away, however, I have them knowing I am giving them the best life possible. It's all for them. what I get out of it is knowing that one animal had a better life than it started with. I love my OH wholly and completely. He is my soul mate. My dogs love me, I love them as much as you can love anything that is that loyal without being an emotional and intellectual equal to a human. I care about the rabbits - some more than others because of the way they behaved around me or the progress we made in our lives together, but as long as they can be rabbits together, I don't believe we feel anything much stronger than an understanding of their needs and my desire to fulfill them.

So you don't love your buns?
I think that's a really logical way of looking at it, I'm interested.
For me though, I get so so attached, I love Moo so much.. I don't know whether rabbits can love you back.. but I like to think they can.. Moo follows me everywhere, jumps on the bed while I'm in it and grooms himself on me and he licks my feet or ankles while I'm walking about without shoes on :lol:
I love animals and I love all my pets.. probably too much, as I end up heartbroken when they leave me :( but I couldn't have a pet without loving it.

chloeturner
24-04-2013, 12:29 AM
This.

I do have a few who don't mind being cuddled but in the end, I'm afraid I see bunnies as bunnies... I keep them with their own kind because they would prefer it that way. I believe far too much emotion is transferred onto pets - apart from dogs who were domesticated to be human companions. I care about my rabbits and there have been some with whom I connected better than others but I don't believe they care one jot about me, just the food I bring and the lifestyle I provide. And I am happy about things being this way. To lose a dog is the single most painful thing I have experienced apart from a human. If I felt like that about the rabbits then I would not have them or so many. this does not mean that I don't fight for them when they are ill or don't cry when they pass away, however, I have them knowing I am giving them the best life possible. It's all for them. what I get out of it is knowing that one animal had a better life than it started with. I love my OH wholly and completely. He is my soul mate. My dogs love me, I love them as much as you can love anything that is that loyal without being an emotional and intellectual equal to a human. I care about the rabbits - some more than others because of the way they behaved around me or the progress we made in our lives together, but as long as they can be rabbits together, I don't believe we feel anything much stronger than an understanding of their needs and my desire to fulfill them.

That's crazy :shock: as abi just said, I love alkaline my pets. I know I'll be much more devastated when anything happens to my dog, but I was truly heartbroken when Misty died. I cried the whole night and following day. I have a big photo if her on my wall, and on my drawers too. The worst part is that was my first experience and it honestly crippled me, knowing I've got heartache like that coming again is horrible. As much as it hurts though, I don't think id want to be emotionally detached from my pets :|

batmobile
24-04-2013, 12:31 AM
It depends how you define love. there are different kinds. I'm afraid I can't put a pet in the same category as a person, no matter how much they mean to me. I've lost a lot of pets; and you never forget how much it hurts to lose something you have made a part of your life. As I said, having lost a dog, and I've said this after losing a few bunnies - even two VERY special ones - it is indescribable, as in my case, the relatonship is so very different. All my buns are outdoors and paired up. I might feel differently if I had a single houserabbit who relied on me for attention and affection but I don't. I enjoy watching them interact with their own kind, spend all my wages on their needs and would always do so as long as my corcumstances allow, but crying when they die, enjoying having them around and wanting to fulfill their needs (which are very basic) does not equate to love as I see it. Not 'love' in the same sense as I feel about hubby, or family, when I say I love you. How is that going to be comparable? I do agree you can have more of a bond with some pets more than others for whatever reason. I do believe they are not 'just buns' and that they have their own traits and habits, but love requires something deeper on a much more emotional level than a pet can provide. As far as I can see it, 'loving' them is fulfilling some emotional need in us. The same way as thinking they are 'embarrassed' if they fall off the sofa... we project a lot more emotion onto them than they feel and this then allows us to believe that we love them because we 'see' their emotions - really a reflection of our own. I think it is much more basic than we make out, is all.Very hard to explain but then if we could explain what love is, then Foreigner could have asked one us instead of wailing about it....

chloeturner
24-04-2013, 12:31 AM
All** my pets. Bloody phone correcting things all the time

abi2013
24-04-2013, 12:42 AM
I was more sad when my bun Harvey died than when my great gran died. Terrible I know...
I truly believe losing a pet can be as devastating, if not more so than losing an actual person.. it all depends on the relationship you have with them.
To me my pets aren't just animals... you see them everyday, you care for them, you spend time with them.. my bun lives in my bedroom with me.. he's on the end of the bed as I type this.. He's a massive part of my everyday life and I see him as a lot more than just an animal.

batmobile
24-04-2013, 01:04 AM
I said pet not animal. And yes,some pet lives do mean more than some humans but the ones I have mentioned will always be loved more than my rabbits. I think calling me emotionally detached from them shows you haven't read my post properly. I remember someone saying they would never love their child more than their cat. They had a child. The perspective changed very quickly. I cried for days when I lost one of my 'special' buns. Crying doesn't prove the amount of love. I know someone who lost their oh. They didnt cry for years... I loved one of my dogs more than some relatives. Depends on the person. Don't assume I'm some sort of coldhearted person. I've felt a lotof loss. I loved them more than my rabbits. Sorry. I hope you never experience that.

tulsi
24-04-2013, 11:55 AM
I love my rabbits as rabbits. None of them enjoy being touched let alone cuddled by me but they all make me smile and they all have a place in my heart. :love::love::love::love::love::love:

batmobile
24-04-2013, 02:33 PM
Exactly tulsi. Everything that has lived a part of your life with you gets a place in your heart&forms part of who you are. Hey are rabbits though&as such I doubt very much know what love as we define it&project it onto them,is. They know we give them food&those that want it grooming....

J&R
24-04-2013, 08:21 PM
Roger rabbit, that was a really touching story. He sounds like such a brave and lovely bun it has brought a few tears to my eyes.

RogerRabbit999
24-04-2013, 08:58 PM
Roger rabbit, that was a really touching story. He sounds like such a brave and lovely bun it has brought a few tears to my eyes.

That's my boy and he always will be :love: :love: :love:

Janey
24-04-2013, 09:20 PM
This.

I do have a few who don't mind being cuddled but in the end, I'm afraid I see bunnies as bunnies... I keep them with their own kind because they would prefer it that way. I believe far too much emotion is transferred onto pets - apart from dogs who were domesticated to be human companions. I care about my rabbits and there have been some with whom I connected better than others but I don't believe they care one jot about me, just the food I bring and the lifestyle I provide. And I am happy about things being this way. To lose a dog is the single most painful thing I have experienced apart from a human. If I felt like that about the rabbits then I would not have them or so many. this does not mean that I don't fight for them when they are ill or don't cry when they pass away, however, I have them knowing I am giving them the best life possible. It's all for them. what I get out of it is knowing that one animal had a better life than it started with. I love my OH wholly and completely. He is my soul mate. My dogs love me, I love them as much as you can love anything that is that loyal without being an emotional and intellectual equal to a human. I care about the rabbits - some more than others because of the way they behaved around me or the progress we made in our lives together, but as long as they can be rabbits together, I don't believe we feel anything much stronger than an understanding of their needs and my desire to fulfill them.

I agree with this, although I have never had a dog so can't comment but I mahine they are the only realy loyal pet.

I love my buns to bits, but I don't believe they love me, they are rabbits, I don't believe they have the capacity to 'love' it's a human emotion. Poppy followed me around, but it was for food, she would leave her food in favour of nose rubs, but that's because she liked the sensation of nose rubs, not because she loved me.

I do kind of wish it wasn't that way and I could believe they have the capacity to love but I don't.

I have had a couple of cats that are very loyal, perhaps not in the same way as dogs but they would certainly seek comfort from me or other members of my family and enjoy spending their time with us.

hoppetylop
24-04-2013, 10:27 PM
I agree with this, although I have never had a dog so can't comment but I mahine they are the only realy loyal pet.

I love my buns to bits, but I don't believe they love me, they are rabbits, I don't believe they have the capacity to 'love' it's a human emotion. Poppy followed me around, but it was for food, she would leave her food in favour of nose rubs, but that's because she liked the sensation of nose rubs, not because she loved me.

I do kind of wish it wasn't that way and I could believe they have the capacity to love but I don't.

I have had a couple of cats that are very loyal, perhaps not in the same way as dogs but they would certainly seek comfort from me or other members of my family and enjoy spending their time with us.

This is the way i see it too.I do love my buns and have a good conection with 2 of the 4 but i dont believe they love me.One of my buns Harry is very fearful of me at the moment because im having to medicate him long term and he hates it.We used to have a close bond,but now he barely tolerates me.:cry:

abi2013
25-04-2013, 01:09 AM
I said pet not animal. And yes,some pet lives do mean more than some humans but the ones I have mentioned will always be loved more than my rabbits. I think calling me emotionally detached from them shows you haven't read my post properly. I remember someone saying they would never love their child more than their cat. They had a child. The perspective changed very quickly. I cried for days when I lost one of my 'special' buns. Crying doesn't prove the amount of love. I know someone who lost their oh. They didnt cry for years... I loved one of my dogs more than some relatives. Depends on the person. Don't assume I'm some sort of coldhearted person. I've felt a lotof loss. I loved them more than my rabbits. Sorry. I hope you never experience that.

Of course I don't assume you're a coldhearted person! I was just interested in your views on it that's all... I think it makes a lot of sense :)

rachylou
25-04-2013, 11:23 AM
In some ways I feel it would be easier to feel less connected to them but at the same time I actually feel honoured to feel this connection to these wonderful beings!
I think it is unfair to assume rabbits dont have the capasity to love, I dont believe that for a second- I know Jims loves me, I can feel it when he hunts me down for snuggles :love:
I honestly believe that love is within the heart of the beholder, animal or human and that loosing a pet can be worse than loosing a human companion, it all depends on the bond you share. I was totally and utterlly devestated when I lost Pip, it broke my heart, I still cuddled her blankie and had a bit of her fur under my pillow for three years, I couldnt bring myself to take her 'shrine' down as I spoke to her picture in floods of tears everyday for three years, this October will be 5 years since I lost her and I still cry and feel such a loss when ever I think of her, now my Nan died the same year that Pip died and although I was very upset and cried for about a month then on and off since but I dont feel the deep sense of loss as I do when I think of Pip. It really does depend on the bond you have as to what you feel.

little-laura
25-04-2013, 01:29 PM
In some ways I feel it would be easier to feel less connected to them but at the same time I actually feel honoured to feel this connection to these wonderful beings!
I think it is unfair to assume rabbits dont have the capasity to love, I dont believe that for a second- I know Jims loves me, I can feel it when he hunts me down for snuggles :love:
I honestly believe that love is within the heart of the beholder, animal or human and that loosing a pet can be worse than loosing a human companion, it all depends on the bond you share. I was totally and utterlly devestated when I lost Pip, it broke my heart, I still cuddled her blankie and had a bit of her fur under my pillow for three years, I couldnt bring myself to take her 'shrine' down as I spoke to her picture in floods of tears everyday for three years, this October will be 5 years since I lost her and I still cry and feel such a loss when ever I think of her, now my Nan died the same year that Pip died and although I was very upset and cried for about a month then on and off since but I dont feel the deep sense of loss as I do when I think of Pip. It really does depend on the bond you have as to what you feel.

I agree you can feel love coming off animals some don't feel or show love towards you but sometimes there's a strong bond and you just know

rachylou
25-04-2013, 02:40 PM
I agree you can feel love coming off animals some don't feel or show love towards you but sometimes there's a strong bond and you just know

Totally agree!