I just went in to say goodnight,he was grooming himself,so i started grooming myself then flopped down,he flopped down next to me so i started grooming his forehead and ears for like 10 mins, all this time im watching bella his partner, shes watching, her ears are pricked so when toffee had enough he moved on to start grooming bella then i end up grooming both of them,i kind off felt like we had an understanding,all thx to the language of the lagomorphs website, thankyou such insight x.