For me the reality is somewhere in the middle...the language is very emotive...love at first site (rarely happens) and 'forcing' a bond are two polar opposites, there is an enormous amount of grey inbetween. Most bonds aren't love at first site, so if we didn't persist beyond that and keep trying with bonds for longer than an initial time and beyond some normal early spats, there would be far more single bunnies out there! Most bonds include a bit of nipping, chasing, humping, all of which are normal and are no long-term indication of whether the bunnies will love each other. It's nothing to do with 'forcing' a bond, and everything to do with understanding the process through which naturally territorial and hierarchical animals have to progress in order to develop their friendship/love.
However, if you are talking about truly 'forcing' a bond, then in most circumstances then no, I don't think it should be forced...unless it is in the best interests of the buns. Sometimes, if it's a case of an owner already has these two buns, and their options are that you 'force' them to bond or they remain single buns forever, then as long as they end up being pals if not madly in love, it can be in the buns best interests to keep on going beyond what you might do if you were a rescue doing 'dating' to find the right bunny match.
For me it's not so much 'forcing' which, like I said earlier, is a bit of an emotive word, it's more about knowing how far to persist, given the individual context and circumstances.
