feelings of guilt

Lolly's mum · Jul 13, 2011

since i lost my Barnes i've had feelings of guilt, not because i made the decision for him to go to rainbow bridge, but because i sometimes find myself not worrying about him.

even when he was fit and healthy, i would worry about him when he was left, when i went to work or the shops.

i used to worry constantly, is he ok? is he eating? is he being binky safe?

now he's gone i have no bunny to worry about and i feel bad for not worrying.

is this normal? does anyone else have experience of this?

em

Sky-O · Jul 13, 2011

Guilt is common when it comes to grief, because it is part of the grieving process. So it is expected you would feel guilt, but that doesn't mean you have a reason to feel guilty.

Maybe when he was alive something inside you told you you needed to worry about him; some sort of instinct. Maybe there was something longer and ongoing that your subconscious tapped into.

Maybe now you know he is ok and that's why there is no more worrying.

It's ok to not worry. You don't need to beat yourself up for that.

sdf76 · Jul 13, 2011

We all grieve in different ways and there is no right and wrong way so don't feel bad about it.

Some find it helps to go over the past many times and some find it better to try to move on quickly.
sue:wave:

Shellypops · Jul 13, 2011

Agree with what sky said, give yourself a break :wave:

Lolly's mum · Jul 13, 2011

Sky-O said:
Guilt is common when it comes to grief, because it is part of the grieving process. So it is expected you would feel guilt, but that doesn't mean you have a reason to feel guilty.

Maybe when he was alive something inside you told you you needed to worry about him; some sort of instinct. Maybe there was something longer and ongoing that your subconscious tapped into.

Maybe now you know he is ok and that's why there is no more worrying.

It's ok to not worry. You don't need to beat yourself up for that.

thankyou x

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