I dont know what to do

i dont know what to do

My specialist said that because of peanuts weak leg he ideally needs a shed + run combo as opposed to his hutch, and she said that when he was indoors she did gradually see his leg getting stronger but as soon as he went outside it declined again due to im having less space. He has a 6 x 2 x 2 which is fine, but he needs more. Mum said it was fine and we would sort it within the next few weeks.

Today my dad has decided that he doesnt want a shed in the garden as it will ruin it and look horrible. He then said "well whats the point in doing it because he doesnt seem to have a good outlook anyway" . That upset me, but then my mum said "well if the worst happens she's still going to need a shed because Jelly will pair with Domino and Pebbles as it was peanut that was the bully when they were a four so she would need a shed for that"

My dad still said no. So i said "well if i cant have a shed, they cant be a three, so ill need to get a friend for Jelly wont i?" he also said no.


So now i have the problem that I cant give peanut what he needs, and then if he doesnt come through the surgery i then cant give the others what they need, and Jelly will be alone as my dad says she couldnt have a new friend because im not here enough.

I know its all what ifs, but whichever scenario i cant do what i need to because my dad wont let me

If peanut survives his op - he cant have what he needs
and if he doesnt - then i cant make a trio and jelly will be alone

That's such a shame. Could you bring them indoors as house bunnies.

no, there far too destructive and the dogs wouldnt put up with it. if my room wasnt so small it might have been possible but its like a shoebox.

we have an indoor boarding outhouse so i said to my mum we could stop the indoor boarding and my dad said "he doesnt mind it being used as that because we make money out of it, but hes not having it permanently taken over by bunnies"

hes just being an idiot. my mum agrees.

Maybe he's just trying to exert some control over the situation. I would say back off for a while (although I appreciate you may not have a while) and try to let him digest it and then start to plant the idea that its HIS idea to have a shed. It may just be too much too soon and that with time he will adjust to it.

maybe he doesnt want to face the fact that Peanut wont be around for much longer now hes all attached and hes just being a bloke its easier to pretend you dont like the animals than admit your as gutted as anyone else.

give him a few days hun, he will do whats right in sure of it xxxx

its not that. he doesnt care about them. he would never hurt them or let them suffer and he knows how much i love them, but he got a new oil tank and then built a wall around it (hes a bricklayer) and has now made plans for a patio and big brick BBQ, and thats where the shed was gunna go. He was happy for it to go there when it was the side of the house where nobody went, but now he has plans for it he doesnt want to let the bunnies go there.

Which i do understand, its his house. But he isnt realising this isnt choice, i have to do this for peanut

XMissySJx said:

its not that. he doesnt care about them. he would never hurt them or let them suffer and he knows how much i love them, but he got a new oil tank and then built a wall around it (hes a bricklayer) and has now made plans for a patio and big brick BBQ, and thats where the shed was gunna go. He was happy for it to go there when it was the side of the house where nobody went, but now he has plans for it he doesnt want to let the bunnies go there.

Which i do understand, its his house. But he isnt realising this isnt choice, i have to do this for peanut

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oh i thought hed secretely bonded with them... must be someone elses dad im thinking of

the little building you use for boarders really does sound like the best option, would you really lose that much income if you used it for peanut?

Where do they exercise at the moment?

Although ideally rabbits should have access 24/7 a foldup run for several hours a day would be an improvement. You can get some nice wooden ones that store flat and are secure. Would sit nicely on a patio

If the side of the house (I'm imaging a side passage) is fairly rabbit proof then a secure gate each end would also turn it into a handy temporary run without hopefully interfering too much with your dads plans.

How about in with the oil tank?

Room for something long and narrow eg a 2' wide 8' long strip.

A shed is pretty big and bulky so whilst it makes very cool accomodation perhaps there is a way to compremise and still get the same floor area.

Maybe foster him to someone else until your dad sees how upset and distraught that makes you and relents? Nothing like a bit of manipulation.

they have a run which is 7 x 3 foot, which isnt attatched to their hutch because we move it around onto fresh grass everyday. that would be attatched to the shed with foam floor tiles like what you use for children outside so it would be soft for his feet.

yeh it kinda is a side passage but that is from the back door, to the door to the garden and we have a utility room and conservatory so it would restrict access to that

he has space to exercise as in run wise, but ideally we want him to have a much bigger floor area than what he has with a hutch.

My mum wanted to make the 'shed' (my uncle works with wood and my dad a bricklayer so we thought we could knock up something to slot in perfectly) so it wouldnt be too high etc but my dad just thinks its unnessacery

Sky-O said:

Maybe foster him to someone else until your dad sees how upset and distraught that makes you and relents? Nothing like a bit of manipulation.

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my dad wouldnt work with that because he knows i would never do it, plus peanut needs alot of care so there is nobody who could look after him.



i feel so useless

My Dad is like this.
Just causes agro, 'just because' he wants it his way.
If I were you and your Mum, just do it. Sod him. Animals come before the look of a garden.

*Spider* said:

My Dad is like this.
Just causes agro, 'just because' he wants it his way.
If I were you and your Mum, just do it. Sod him. Animals come before the look of a garden.

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"hetty why is there hay all over my garden?" :lol::lol:

My mum cant do it without my dads help this is the problem. we need his help to do it. and my mum wont do it unless my dad said its okay. not because she only does what he says but bcus its not worth the aggro

I just think he thinks peanut doesnt need it. because he has a nice big hutch he thinks thats good enough.

XMissySJx said:

"hetty why is there hay all over my garden?" :lol::lol:

My mum cant do it without my dads help this is the problem. we need his help to do it. and my mum wont do it unless my dad said its okay. not because she only does what he says but bcus its not worth the aggro

I just think he thinks peanut doesnt need it. because he has a nice big hutch he thinks thats good enough.

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God, that sounds like whn my Mum said, "Hetty their kennel is far too big, why don't we just get them a nice little hutch and put them up the top of the garden."
OH MY GOD.
I love DIY I will help!!

hahaha we may have to recruit you.

I mean, dont get me wrong he would never make them live in a small hutch, i think hes fed up that he spend all last summer making me 6 x 2 x 2 hutches for boarding etc and now im like "there not big enough" but i tried to explain its only peanut who needs bigger, it IS big enough for 'normal' rabbits.

Hes just being so inconsiderate. Im worried that if he wont do this for me its going to come back and that will be it. After this surgery its make or break, so ideally he needs the best enviroment possible, to ensure he recovers.

I cant even keep him indoors for a few weeks temp as my room is literally tiny.

My dad is somewhat of a pain also. He wont let me put a catflap in the shed as he doesn't want to cut holes in it (bearing in mind it is my shed). Instead i will have to build a shelter inside the run and move them between the run and the shed everyday. Arghhhh dads!

If he doesn't fancy an ugly shed would he consider a pretty playhouse as a compromise, with a folding run that can be put away if necessary?

lilbun said:

If he doesn't fancy an ugly shed would he consider a pretty playhouse as a compromise, with a folding run that can be put away if necessary?

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its the space, he wants plants and a bench and stuff, and i understand that, he wants a nice place to sit in the evenings, and i know i shouldnt deprive him of that because they are my animals.

Why cant you put a nice shed where the hutches are at the moment? If you bought one big enough even then you could convert it and put all four in there with seperate pens and sell two of the hutches. I dont mind stealing peanut hehe he can run up and down my garden

nursecroft said:

Why cant you put a nice shed where the hutches are at the moment? If you bought one big enough even then you could convert it and put all four in there with seperate pens and sell two of the hutches. I dont mind stealing peanut hehe he can run up and down my garden

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Well, this is what i said to do, but the problem is, all our boarding is done in that rabbit garden and obviously i cant do it anywhere else, and i would have to close my boarding. Now, dont get me wrong i would do it for him, but my MUM now wont let me do that.

Her point is, she has spent the past year keeping it afloat while i was at uni so if i now close it she will be angry. we also have booking til 2010 April. And while i cant get a temp job (theres nothing around here) i cant afford to close it because its my only source of income at the moment.

God i sound so horrible

I just dont know what to do. I think i will have to close, i cant see any other way around it to be honest.