purplebumble
Warren Veteran
after the day we had with my elderly mum today weve realised theres no way we can try to leave our buns there during the day and bring them home each noght for the 10 days the council will take to replace the kitchen....
my mum stressed me out so much today i screamed at my daughter whos birthday it was and really upset her....
also my mums going to be on the cancellation list to have her cataracts removed as theyre pretty bad.
the council havent given me a date yet for sept cos theyre presuming my mum will have my buns during the day etc....
im going to ring them monday and say no i have to board my buns out now...so i need the date.
im terrifed for me mum....angry at her for keeping on at me when the doc has said at this rate ill end up in hopsital or committed!! its because we are the only family that she can moan at as the others odnt come see her or do anything for her since my dad died 2 and a half years ago..we had herorund everyday twice a day for motnhs after the funeral..then most nights for tea etc..halloween xmas new years weeknds weekdays etc....and she has made me feel like osmething that someones stepped in...she says its not hwat she means etc but its made me extra depressed tonight i feel almost suicidal.....so low.......and she stresses the buns out like that.
shes got no friends as shes only friends with 2 neighbours who have no time for her anymore isnce dad died.
my mums hard going..repeats herself often but its not new..shes been like that since i was little!
i cant stress the buns out like that and i cant stress and burden my mum..and i really dont think ill be able to cope
i know theres lists of boarding places bit i need one recommended by use here.....either that or if sue will have them for the 10days i might be able to get them boarded at southampton rabbit rescue where we got bandit from...if so is there anyone willing to help me get them there and back after the 10 days..i will pay petrol etc.....
cant sleep now why is it the wekend when i need to ring the council and get the date asap...now. to be honset id feel hapier with them in one place day and night for 10 days rather than back and forth...i know my daughter will argue and so will my mum but im sure the stress of boarding for 10 days plus the journey will be less stressfulthan back n forth twice a day and the stres in my mums house..cleaning feeding etc visits from me being short as ill be so stressed with the kitchen being done....etc etc
am i doing the right thing by my buns and by my mum? i think so..itll be fairer on them all..as the frnechies would have to stay in her garden everyday all day until i took them home at night and the teenies would have to stay in a cage in a bedroom upstairs all day and then overnite bakc home and i had to get themover to mums before work started every morning..ok if you odnt have epilptic attacks form leaping outta bed etc!
im so down over this...i dont know what to do
my mum stressed me out so much today i screamed at my daughter whos birthday it was and really upset her....
also my mums going to be on the cancellation list to have her cataracts removed as theyre pretty bad.
the council havent given me a date yet for sept cos theyre presuming my mum will have my buns during the day etc....
im going to ring them monday and say no i have to board my buns out now...so i need the date.
im terrifed for me mum....angry at her for keeping on at me when the doc has said at this rate ill end up in hopsital or committed!! its because we are the only family that she can moan at as the others odnt come see her or do anything for her since my dad died 2 and a half years ago..we had herorund everyday twice a day for motnhs after the funeral..then most nights for tea etc..halloween xmas new years weeknds weekdays etc....and she has made me feel like osmething that someones stepped in...she says its not hwat she means etc but its made me extra depressed tonight i feel almost suicidal.....so low.......and she stresses the buns out like that.
shes got no friends as shes only friends with 2 neighbours who have no time for her anymore isnce dad died.
my mums hard going..repeats herself often but its not new..shes been like that since i was little!
i cant stress the buns out like that and i cant stress and burden my mum..and i really dont think ill be able to cope
i know theres lists of boarding places bit i need one recommended by use here.....either that or if sue will have them for the 10days i might be able to get them boarded at southampton rabbit rescue where we got bandit from...if so is there anyone willing to help me get them there and back after the 10 days..i will pay petrol etc.....
cant sleep now why is it the wekend when i need to ring the council and get the date asap...now. to be honset id feel hapier with them in one place day and night for 10 days rather than back and forth...i know my daughter will argue and so will my mum but im sure the stress of boarding for 10 days plus the journey will be less stressfulthan back n forth twice a day and the stres in my mums house..cleaning feeding etc visits from me being short as ill be so stressed with the kitchen being done....etc etc
am i doing the right thing by my buns and by my mum? i think so..itll be fairer on them all..as the frnechies would have to stay in her garden everyday all day until i took them home at night and the teenies would have to stay in a cage in a bedroom upstairs all day and then overnite bakc home and i had to get themover to mums before work started every morning..ok if you odnt have epilptic attacks form leaping outta bed etc!
im so down over this...i dont know what to do