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help me to say no - ive fallen again!!! **** at fostering

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:oops: :roll: Im not doing very well at this fostering. the first one i fostered and i was able to get him sociable and was happy he was rehomed. I then had jojo the angora who i fell for as she is my baby girl and so soft in nature i just couldnt let her go back, plus mr pips fell for her too. And NOW i have fallen again for my third. He is so adorable and came to me as a grump to be socialised but the truth is he just loves human company - he has not been put with the other two and lives alone in his cage but obv comes out for his run round and his cuddles - he also has a run in the garden whilst mr pips and jojo have free range. Now mr pips im not sure if its cuse he is another male just sits by him all day, Oh by the way his name is Alfie, But the thing is when Alfie is out for his cuddles he is willing and quite content to flop down and stretch out by the side of me oh the sofa and stay there for hours. my other buns do have snuggles about the same time each night but they arent so happy to do this on there own free will. I just cant can i have another - i just keep thinking how will i manage to give them all one on one attention as at the moment Alfie comes out for snuggles, then hubby has mr pips and i have jojo or visa versa. The other two have free range of a very well appointed carpeted bunny garage during the day and have cages for the evening when they go to bed together as they are now a bonded pair. I just keep thinkin will anyone understand him like we do. OH im **** i know i am i shud be lookin forward to him going to a new home and being loved but he is so vunerable. Please i dont know what to do and feel guilty that i am meant to be fostering and falling for them. :oops: I just like to give them all personal attention and could i handle three??
 
by the way a photos of Alfie


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It can be very hard to let go of a bunny especially when you you have built up a bond with it. I think you just have to enjoy that special time you had with him and make sure that he goes to a home that will give him just enough loving and affection and think of all the other bunnies to come whose life you will make a difference for.

If you decide that you can't part with him you may have to reconsider fostering or at this rate you'll keep them all!!!!
 
I know Tara thanks for your reply - I was considering i may have to give it up this is not good is it really....im not meant to be rehoming them myself......:roll: But like u say i am trying to think of the others i will help. I thought when i kept jojo oh there will always be one and she was it....but he has buitl up rather a bon.d with us. Its very difficult.
 
I would love to foster rabbits myself but I would be exactly in the same situation - hundreds of bunnies running around!
I'm sure whatever you decide will be the best for your buns :)
 
I find fostering one bun at a time really hard because you inevitably build up a special bond with them as your only one. My own buns don't get nearly as much time because they have each other, and in all honesty don't care if I'm there or not as long as they are fed and cleaned!

I guess you have to look at it that if you keep this one, you won't have the time and space to help the next needy one. By getting them into a condition (both physical and mental) in which they are able to progress to a permanent loving home, you are doing your 'bit' for them and are then in a position to start the whole process again with the next one. I find it really rewarding - but definitely very hard to let them go!
 
It IS hard, isn't it?! I've failed twice at fostering,, but also managed to allow 4 other fosters to be rehomed :lol: I still miss some of them - one pair in particular I found really hard to let go. Don't know what advise to give really, but at least if you have complete faith in the rescue you are fostering for then you know they will get the best home possible and that makes it so much easier :D
 
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